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[Guest_00441740]

Hi guys, I gave up a very stressful career 18 months ago and am now doing something I enjoy but still can’t seem to shake the anxiety and doubts that I was hoping would disappear. I have a great wife and most of my children are wonderful and successful but I still can’t seem to feel happy. I have been on medication for a couple of years but the side affects just make my anxiety worse. Is there any way to get myself back?

[therising]

A very warm welcome to you

The search for the right medication can definitely be a bit of a Goldilocks experience. This one is too much, that one is not enough, this one is just right. Sounds simplistic to say that the right med will have all the right side effects and the wrong one will have the wrong side effects but this is what I found for myself. Being a sensitive gal, I've also sensed what's made no difference one way or the other. While I haven't been down the path of meds for quite a number of years, I still remember that path well. Definitely a challenging path, that's for sure. Sounds like it may be time for you to return to your GP or specialist who can look at prescribing the best medication for you, as opposed to the one you're taking, or maybe it's a matter of developing new strategies in conjunction with the medication or perhaps a whole new set of strategies without meds. All worth looking into.

I'd have to say possibly the most challenging thing in life involves working out who we are, a handy thing to know if we want to get aspects of our self back. While I have some idea when it comes to who I am, based on years of research and experimentation, what I've discovered is the tip of the iceberg. The research aspect relates to my need to better understand myself so as not to suffer from depressions and anxieties, just to name a couple of challenging factors in life. I understand myself on a physical level to some degree, relating to how I tick in the way of biology, chemistry and physics and what positively and negatively influences these things. I have some understanding of how I mentally tick, in the way of perception, inner dialogue, sense of identity and more. While I know it's not everyone's cup of tea, I've found it's also handy to work out how I tick on a soulful level. With depression feeling like such a soul destroying experience at times, I've found it's helpful to have a soulful or natural understanding when it comes to thriving in life.

In some cases, returning or turning again to certain aspects of who we are works wonders. In other cases it can be a matter of 'I'm not going to turn again to meet with that aspect of myself, I'm going to turn to a part of myself I've never managed to meet and/or develop in the past'. So, it can be a matter of bringing a whole new part of our self to life. While the drinker in us may have led us to drink our cares away, how to do a somewhat carefree life without alcohol becomes the challenge. While the workaholic in us may have led us to plenty of money, a particular lifestyle and more in the past, how to now enjoy a style of life that means less money yet a far more stress free and joyful style of life becomes the challenge. If there are facets in us that can lead us to less stress, less of what's depressing and more of what's calming and incredibly joyful, 'What part of me do I need to begin tapping into?' becomes the question.

I've found in some cases there is no going back and that's not necessarily a bad thing. If the only way to meet with emotion (energy in motion) we love to feel running through us involves moving forward and tapping into new and liberating parts of our self, these will be the parts that help rekindle such emotion. What part of you is champing at the bit to come to life and who or what can help you meet with it?