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Struggling to come out
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09-08-2017
04:46 PM
So, I'm 30 and I can finally admit to myself that I am gay. That was hard to type. Has anyone else struggled for so long to admit even to themselves who they really are? I come from a family where I grew up with this silly idea (because of my father) that being gay was the worst of the worst and I have repressed it for this long. I suffer from anxiety and depression and this is something that I can finally see has contributed to it. What are other people's struggles? Is ok when you come out? How do you even do it? What strategies help when anxiety and depression rear their ugly head and make everything seem so bleak? Thanks to anyone who answers this ❤️
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09-08-2017
07:16 PM
Hi KateCloud and welcome to the forums,
I have absolutely no advice to give (I'm not gay so have no idea how you feel).
But I just wanted to post and say...
😊😊😊GOOD FOR YOU😊😊😊
Regardles what your family thinks it is awesome that you're being honest with yourself while you're young. I wish you all the very best and hope you get supportive responses from your offline world.
Welcome to the BB family. I hope you stick around so we can get to know you.
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10-08-2017
04:25 AM
How other people feel with their own views in life, is up to them, but we are all brought up in life believing what our parents teach us, until we get to the stage when it's now time for ourselves to take on how we think and to make our own choices, that's what happens in life and will always continue.
It seems as though you have been fighting with this feeling and because of that depression and anxiety has set in, worried about what sort of reaction you will get, especially from your dad, so now there are two issues you are facing, and if you don't get the help from your
Stand tall and book an appointment with your doctor, fear only creates MI. Geoff.
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10-08-2017
04:25 PM
Thankyou so much Geoff! Sometimes someone else's perspective can make things that seemed so complicated so much clearer 😍
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10-08-2017
04:27 PM
Thanks Quercus! I needed to test the waters online to see how people would react and your post means more than you could know 💕
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10-08-2017
08:41 PM
Hi KateCloud, I'm not gay so I'm not sure how it feels for you, but I wanted to say that good on you posting....it takes courage....you are braver than you think. And you made the first step by admit it to yourself. Well done.
Hugs from Sola
