Separated from narcassistic partner
Congratulations on leaving your relationship and beginning the journey of reclaiming yourself and your life ❤
9 months is still very fresh out of the toxicity, so give yourself time to adjust, especially as you jave started dating again, and that will stir up a lot of stuff.
When i started a relationship after a narcissistic situation, i reckin it took me a good 18 months to lose a lot of the shackles i was bound in, and that was after being single for a year prior to dating. So give yourself plenty of space and time and gentleness. I needed to talk to someone as well, it saved my life.
Do you have some supports around you? I found some online support really helpful, resources i found on narc relationship recovery online were awesome too.
Don't worry, 51 is the new 31, so you're doing great.
You are so welcome to share any of your thoughts, worries and concerns here, you are safe.
I hope you stick around, you are amongst friends.
I’m sorry to hear and I hope you find the help you need. On another note, I hope you don’t mind me deviating and asking you this:
I’m only 34 but am afraid that I myself am a narcissist. I’ve been married for 10 years and have two kids. Would you mind telling me what kind of things your partner did to make you think he was narcissistic?
I have only just logged back in after quite some time of seeking advice back then. I had forgotten i had reached out during this craziness in my life & have now just read this & wanted to say how appreciative of what you wrote. Means a lot & I took time for myself to reflect & heal. Sometimes i have triggers even now. But have since moved on & have a loving & supportive new partner. Just wanted to thank you once again, means alot.
Thank you for your response. Means alot even after reading from so long ago when i was in a really dark place. Have just logged in for another reason & found some responses to my comment which i had forgotten i had reached out back then. Thank you and sounds like you had a difficult time of it too. You are very strong like myself to take back the control of your life & feelings & emotions. Good for you that is strength in itself. Moving forward. Hope you are too.
Hello Emma Smith 8,
Sorry to here of your situation and sincerely hope it has improved. I have only just checked in again to this forum after self reflecting & time away to heal. I hope you have healed for yourself and your children. Just read this and to answer your question i read alot of things towards the end of the relationship, that rang alarm bells for me. What i was reading was who i was living with.
Some of the things were;
switching moods quickly, Nice one minute & flies off the handle the next
making me feel bad for mentioning things when i had a certain expectation of home rules & he didn't agree (so making me feel like i was making a mountain out of a mole hill)
He or things he did were of more importance
Sense of entitlement (money)
Exploiting of others without any guilt
Bullying, intimidation, belittling
Selfish & patronizing