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Reaching out to others

Traviarty
Community Member

Hello everyone I have severe depression, anxiety and suffer from paranoia like my father did I decided to give this forum stuff a go I've never really done this before. 2015 was a terrible year for me I lost my father to cancer, I lost the job of my dreams on my mothers birthday and I had a beautiful girl in my life who down the line decided to mess with my head, lie to me and other nasty stuff. I lost a very good friend which still hurts and everyday the memories run through my head which upsets me as I want to move on.

One of the reasons for coming on here is I feel I cant talk to friends or family about it because I get the get over it or the you need to stop being dramatic routine every time I try to reach out. I feel empty inside and have no enjoyment in the things I used to do everyday its the same thing and I'm finding it hard to break out of it.

 

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white knight
Community Champion
Community Champion

Hi Traviarty, welcome here

Firs tup if you google this article I worte some time ago it might put things into perspective about others not understanding.

"Topic: They just wont understand- why?- beyondblue"

Motivation doesn't come easy when you have depression. Everytime I come up with a new idea to be motivated the next time depression comes along I'm left feeling a fool. But read these and it might give you some ideas-

"Topic: Cheap recovery idea- camping- beyondblue"

"Topic: accepting ourselves, the frog and the scorpion- beyondblue"

"Topic: happiness, what should be our goal?- beyondblue"

"Topic: 30 minutes can change your life- beyondblue"

"Topic: depression, is there any positive- beyondblue"

"Topic: confidence, how do you get it?- beyondblue"

"Topic: Depression, a ship on the high seas- beyondblue"

Topic: motivation, search and rescue it- beyondblue"

Hope they help. Its great to see you here.

Tony WK

Doolhof
Champion Alumni
Champion Alumni

Hi Traviarty,

I too wish to welcome you to the forums. Tony has made lots or recomm,endations for topics for you to have a look at.

Here on this web site, there is information relating to depression and also where to find help in your area. I have also used the phone help line. I find the people who answer the phone to be understanding and helpful. They have helped me back onto my feet a few times.

It is difficult for people without depression to know just what this illness feels like and how it messes with your head and emotions. I'm sure a lot of us have been told to "just get on with it" or "Pull your socks up" and so on.

My Father in law told me to just pull my socks up. I told him that even if I pulled them all the way up to my ears if I could, it still wouldn't help.

Here on this forum you will find people who understand, people who have walked a similar journey and people who have come out the other side and can offer suggestions for what worked for them.

I'm sorry to read that 2015 was so tough for you with all that you shared.

Some people find it helpful to write about how they feel, people have shared their thoughts on this site in poetry.

Maybe you could try to do one thing that you used to enjoy. Lets say you used to like fishing. To start with , maybe you could buy a fishing magazine or borrow some from the library. Look at those and read some of the articles. It might make you enthusiastic again.

Plan a trip to the river or beach. Even if you don't get to go fishing, you don't catch anything or you just don't enjoy yourself, you have managed to do something! Hope that little scenario made sense.

I usually get pleasure out of gardening. On a really low depressive day I might be able to manage to just water the pot plants. That is okay. It is an excellent first step. I have looked at my plants and cared for them.

This is turning into an essay! Ha. Ha. Hope some of this rambling helps.

Cheers form Mrs. Dools

 

Thanks very much Tony and Mrs. Dools its nice to know there are people out there I can talk to about this.

Hi Traviarty,

There is a whole community here! I am signing off for now.

Not sure if you have checked out any of the other threads on the site.

You might like to have a look around in the Community and Staying Well Sections. They have some interesting posts you might like to add to covering an enormous range of topics from favourite songs to hobbies.

Have a wander around and see what you can find. There are a few word games on here as well. I sometimes go to them for a bit of fun and to connect with others in a light hearted manner.

Good night for now, chat with you again soon. From Mrs. Dools