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Fattie
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Hi all I'm 37 I've been suffering depression for about 5ys now and it's a roller coaster some days are good then I can be down for a week or more and it's really starting to take its toll on me and my marriage.Im in a leading hand supervised role in my job that I like,sometimes it really gets to me stressing over it tho.I've spoken with my GP who past this site on to me to check out so I'll see how it goes. 👍
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Kazzl
Blue Voices Member
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Hiya Fattie, welcome to the forum! It's good to meet you, and well done for reaching out here. I'm very pleased your doctor put you on to us, please thank them for us!

Ahhh, I know that rollercoaster well, as do many people here. And it's sure not fun. It's good you've got the support of your GP. They might have suggested a mental health care plan, through which you can see a psychologist under Medicare ? That's definitely worth a try, as is talking to people here.

What do you think might be triggering the depression? Often we don't know ourselves, but sometimes we can identify what sends us into a spiral? I'd like to know a bit more about you and your circumstances if you'd like to share them, so we can maybe be a bit more specific with our support?

It's good you like your job, but it can be hard eh, when you have responsibilities stressing you out and feel too debilitated to resolve issues that are troubling you? Are there particular people getting to you, or overwork and fatigue?

You say depression is starting affect your marriage. Do you talk openly with your partner about it? Are they supportive or dismissive? It's often very hard for people who live us and don't want to see us in pain, especially if they feel a bit helpless in the situation.

Sorry to ask so many questions, but I'd like to get to know you better. Come back and we'll talk a bit more.

Also, have a good read around both the website and the forum, you'll find some good information and tips from others who have or are going through similar experiences.

Look forward to talking again

Kaz

Fattie
Community Member

Hi Kaz thanks for your reply

my wife has been very supportive of me in everything I do but the roller coaster gets to her where some days she just can't talk to me not knowing if I'm going to cry or yell

My work does stress me I've spoken to my boss about what I call babysitting (repeating tasks to people who have done them before) some times he listens other times not so much

My other problem is alcohol sometime feeling great other times rock bottom. I'm trying my best to avoid any boz at all as I know when I have 1 I want 10 and that leads to problems my wife doesn't like it and it also affects us in the coin department I've now give my card to my wife so as not to buy any

my GP hasn't put any medical plan in place as yet but I will be looking into further

cheers

Kazzl
Blue Voices Member
Blue Voices Member

Hi Fattie - good to see you again.

It's great your wife is being supportive - it's very hard for them, and sometimes we don't appreciate that. It's really good that you do try to see things from her perspective.

If you read my profile on the Welcome board (under who are our champions) you'll know about my battle with booze. I really understand how hard that is, and I'm so glad you realise and accept the problem it's causing you. It takes some of us a very long time to see that we could be so much better, in so many ways, if we got off the booze. Took me years.

If you want support with getting off the drink, there another thread in the Staying Well section called Battling the Booze that might interest you.

You know mate, it might not seem this way when you're feeling so low, but you have made a great start here and you have lots going for you towards getting well and living a better life. You've got a good doctor, a supportive wife, a boss who at least listens sometimes, and new friends here who 'get it' and want to share the road ahead with you. You are on your way, and we're here to walk with you.

Stay with us mate, ask anything you want, join in on any thread you want.

Very best to you

Kaz