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dear Sweetpea, I can only give a hug through the computer, but I would be too scared that I would hug you and leave you breathless. lol
Moving away must have been for a reason, so I only hope it was for new environment, or to start a new life, or perhaps too much pain where you were, but to move somewhere else leaves you wide open for low self esteem, because you are now in a new place, trying to make friends, but having no luck.
It's always something that I regret or fear having to move because uprooting my boundaries and that seems to scare me.
By having no friends/people who don't come to visit you think that you are an afterthought, if they do then it's not worth having them as friends, true friends are people who stand by you and stick with you, and who want to help you, especially when you are depressed, unfortunately people like this are so hard to find, and people who contact you just because they want something, aren't true 'friends'.
I do hope that you can get back to us. L Geoff. x
You are correct, you must learn to love yourself, but not so that others will like you. Once you love yourself it will be enough. It's probably true that others will like you. This is because you will have found your hidden strength and self confidence. And you will have less need for others. Though having said that we are all better off when we are connected. You will also be less vulnerable to be being manipulated by others and to manage the painful things said and done to you and everyone else.
As I am writing this to you I am also reminding myself to do the same. It's not selfish to believe in yourself or to look after yourself first. When you are able to cope with life you can then help others. I don't mean this will necessarily stop your depression but it will go a long way to helping you live a happy life.
So go out as much as possible. Walk as much as you can, exercise is great for managing depression. Look around for volunteer work. I know you want a paid job and volunteering can add to your skills and lead to paid work. In any event it is well regarded by CentreLink and can count as work if the volunteer placement is approved.
The best part of volunteering is the contact it gives you with other people and the satisfaction of helping others in some capacity. Let us know how you are going.