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My wife doesn't understand depression.

Dom_T
Community Member

hi, i have been fighting this shit of a disease most of my life, however after 15 years in the same job and an acquisition, 3 year of hell on wheels, being the meat in the sandwich from senior management and the grown level staff, going to work every day to fight for what was right for the customer, staff, company, etc. sent me to total burn out. Depression kick in at full steam, and it has now been 2+ years of Psyc, meds on and now off - because i can't stand the feeling of nothing.

My wife asks me.. 'why can't you just be happy and move forward?' 'When is this going to be over?' she doesn't understand depression and openly says she doesn't, asks me what i need to fix it..

it gets really lonely and super busy inside my head all at the same time.

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blondguy
Champion Alumni
Champion Alumni

Hi Dom T

Welcome and thankyou for posting too!

Depression is a vile illness...I understand the pain and anguish you are going through....Even though in recovery it can be a bad place to be in. I am ex corporate from a management and HR background

Just a note....The more frequent our counseling...the better quality our recovery will be...Monthly is great...fortnightly is better again! Weekly is excellent....(if possible of course) I use both meds and counseling together to obtain better peace of mind as meds on their own are not a fix all...unfortunately

Can I ask when you were diagnosed? (if thats okay?)

Beyond Blue have an excellent section on 'Supporting Someone with Depression/Anxiety' that may helpful for your wife if she is having difficulty providing you with the support you need during this difficult period.

www.beyondblue.org.au/the-facts/supporting-someone/supporting-someone-with-depression-or-anxiety

Its a copy & paste link that has excellent info for people that dont understand what we are going through

The forums are a safe and non judgemental place for you to post Dom πŸ™‚ Your privacy and well being is paramount to Beyond Blue and the forums

any questions are welcome

my kind thoughts

Paul

white knight
Community Champion
Community Champion

Hi Dom T, welcome

Blondeguy has asked some relevant questions there.

Here is thread you can google

Beyondblue Topic they just wont understand- why?

TonyWK

Dom_T
Community Member

Hi Blondguys.

Yeah you can ask, About 2&1/2 years ago.

thanks for the link and thanks for, replying.

Thanks WK

having some pretty big ups and down atm.

white knight
Community Champion
Community Champion

Hi

I dont think going off meds will help. A readjustment yes, if you get your psych or GP to agree to that.

Please google

Beyondblue Topic medication is a whirlpool

Beyondblue Topic the timing of motivation

It is lonely being mentally unwell. That why this forum is so busy.

I may point out that I took 12 different medications over a 6 year period before one was compatible.

A second opinion might lead to a medication change, dosage change and diffetent therapy.

TonyWK

WK

i stopped taking my meds about 3 months ago, cold turkey (yes I know!). It took about 6 weeks + for the side effects to stop and for the numb feelings to stop. I have always been a caring, compassionate person with loads of empathy, on the meds I was nothing, I could stand there and watch someone get hurt and feel nothing, NOTHING!

working with my psyc, we are working on reading the signs and learning to take a breather or take myself away from situations, come back later. This is a real struggle for me. I have always been so stubborn to succeed, I guess proving to myself I am good enough, but after the total burn out, I can’t do it anymore. I feel like I have failed and am lazy. It really chews me up.

i just want the world to stop so I can get off, Live in a cabin in the bush. Or something. I have started to go camping and 4x4 driving since feb, it helps escape without the need of drowning myself in scotch.

training myself to accept the pace I can handle now is a challenge I am slowly getting through. It’s just a massive contrast from the 60-70 hour working weeks prior for as long as I can remember.

everything is new and challenging,

sorry, been a really hard few days. Downloading too much!

i