Hello
I'm in a lose-lose situation and it's crippling me. I'm currently no use to my family, friends, or workplace. I desperately need to get some help in changing my mindset. Any suggestion and comments very welcome.
I have fallen deeply in love with a coworker. She doesnt know how I feel, and I cant tell her without losing so, SO much (more later).
Trying to view the situation objectively as I can, I can see why this has happened. My coworker is a beautiful kind, caring person, who shows me a great deal of respect. We have so much in common, we enjoy talking with each other and sharing open and honest feeling. In contrast I'm in a marriage where intimacy is gone, children ignore me, and I feel under appreciated.
I want so badly to tell my coworker how I feel. However, I can run the scenarios in my mind and none of them leads to anything good. Outcome, from most likely to least, include:
a) I tell her, she doesnt feel the same way, is disgusted that I (a married family man) would feel that way and requests a transfers to another section (I lose a wonderful friendship);
b) I dont tell her, I learn to live this secret, learn to deal with my emotions, and try to work beside her (not literally) (I bottle up my feeling); or
c) I tell her, she feels the same way, I have an affair or leave my wife, family and friends (I lose the best things about me).
At the moment I'm leaning towards (b), but I need to learn how to deal with my feelings. Any advice or comments welcome.
