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Milo89
Community Member

Hi everyone

I’m new here and I’m a bit nervous about post for the first time.

i have severe anxiety disorders, chronic depression, adhd, c-ptsd, ocd, agoraphobia, bpd traits, anxious attachment disorder and more.

I’ve been feeling so overwhelmed lately. I’m a mum of two beautiful girls and I’m trying to get back to being the mum they deserve. Am I alone in this or is anyone else struggling right now??

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Hopetobehappy
Community Member
Hi I am new here too. I too really want to get back to the husband and father my girls deserve.
I wish you all the best in getting back there. It is a relief to see we are not alone in our feelings.

white knight
Community Champion
Community Champion

Hi to both of you

Firstly anxiety is a serious illness. In 1987 my anxiety peaked and led to a panic attack. I was off work for 10 months and had to change my semi law enforcement profession. I then, initially had a therapist for 12 months then embarked upon some self help programs mainly of my own ideas to eliminate anxiety altogether. It worked, in total taking 22 years to get to total freedom of it.

I have some links at the end of this post.

There is some basic steps that one can take in the initial stages to find relief from the symptoms of anxiety and depression. We cant however do this alone- we should consult our GP and his/her recommended professional consultants.

Acceptance of our illnesses is a major leap forward. It isnt easy realising you have these flaws/disabilities. Then its harder to find the right professional/compatible medication/tuning meds for the right dose/ongoing treatment/family and friends acceptance/life changes. All I can say is it's worth every effort. I'm now 66yo and having bipolar/depression/dysthymia and eliminated anxiety- I'm now in a good place, fragile, but overall ok.

You can commence a new thread and make it ongoing here or post a new topic at your leisure.

So the following links will help you both. Simply have to read the first post of each thread. I'd be interested in your thoughts.

https://www.beyondblue.org.au/get-support/online-forums/anxiety/anxiety-how-l-eliminated-it

https://www.beyondblue.org.au/get-support/online-forums/anxiety/worry-worry-worry (there is also part 2 of this one)

https://www.beyondblue.org.au/get-support/online-forums/staying-well/depression-distraction-and-vari...

https://www.beyondblue.org.au/get-support/online-forums/staying-well/meditation---words-of-wisdom---...

https://www.beyondblue.org.au/get-support/online-forums/relationship-and-family-issues/fortress-of-s... (there is also parts 2,3,4 of this if you think this helps you)

https://www.beyondblue.org.au/get-support/online-forums/anxiety/anxiety-relief#qzMeznHzvGGEbv8AAOnT_...

https://www.beyondblue.org.au/get-support/online-forums/staying-well/the-toll-of-stress-upon-us

https://www.beyondblue.org.au/get-support/online-forums/staying-well/dna-what-you-cant-change

https://www.beyondblue.org.au/get-support/online-forums/staying-well/the-frog-and-the-scorpion-our-n...

There is many more. Our search feature has a library of many topics so try it if you want.

Cheers for now.

TonyWK

Mark Z.
Community Champion
Community Champion

Hi Milo89,

Welcome to the forum.

I understand that you may feel a bit nervous about posting for the first time. But soon you'll find that people here are super lovely. You're more than welcome to share your story and challenge, and we're ready to listen, give advice or share our lived experience.

Regarding your two beautiful angels, I understand that you're trying to minimise the impact of your mental issue to them, like any mum wanting to create best environment for their kids. But don't blame yourself, as they're growing up, they'll understand your love, and your challenge.

I believe that your priority is to love yourself, trust yourself and take care of yourself. Do what you love to do, stay connected with family and close friends, stay on track of your treatment.

Everything will be better.

Mark