I’m tired of trying and pushing myself hard

[MzAngel]

Hi, I’m new here. I am unsure if I am just exhausted or upset or depressed. I have not seen a doctor. I feel like I am so tired of being busy with work kids and house work that no matter what I do or how hard I work, things are not getting better. I have high aspirations for my kids and myself and I work very hard to get them. However, I feel that I’m pushing myself hard but I am not getting anywhere. My responsibilities are draining me and i am starting to feel weak and upset that I’m thinking my hard work is not enough. Perhaps a bit more luck may help make things easier for me. I know I need to stay strong for my kids. I need to feel better and get going.

[geoff]

Hello MzAngel, I'm sorry for how you are feeling, however, can I give you a quick example of how I can relate your story, and please I don't mean any harm in doing so: can you imagine a labourer working all day, exhausting himself, and when he gets home he needs to wheelbarrow a load of bricks up an incline to the bricklayer, he can't, he's too tired, does this same principle remind you of how you are feeling, you're not well, so you can't do what you could do while you were well.

A strange way of putting it, but that's how I see it, but being exhausted and upset can certainly lead to depression, these can be the base for this illness, so I do think that you should go and see your doctor.

The longer you hold off going, the worse your situation will become and that's not what we want, talk to your GP, they may suggest you take some medication and also refer you onto a psychologist, but ask them about the 'mental health plan', this entitles you to 10 free sessions per year.

Can also recommend you do the K-10 test.

Take results of the test with you when you see your GP and try and write down on a piece of paper what has been going on and what concerns you, this will get them to understand much quicker.

Please let us know how you get on.

Best wishes.

Geoff.

[baet123]

Hey MzAngel,

Welcome to BB and thank you for posting.

Sorry to hear that you are struggling at the moment but what your experiencing is extremely normal and very common. I can tell that you are a loving, caring and resilient person and parent who cares greatly for her children and that is amazing and something to be extremely proud of.

I think it would be a great idea to consider seeing your GP and discussing your emotional well-being and some possible treatment/intervention methods should they be required.

Do you have any support structures in place? Do you have any self-care methods in place? Do you take time out of your schedule to enjoy yourself and do things you enjoy? I think its super important to take care of yourself also. Our caring nature instinctively urges us to help others before ourselves, however, our well-being matters too and if our health and well-being is in a good place generally many other things in our life is too.

I think seeing your GP would be a great start!

Please keep us posted and I look forward to hearing from you again.

All the best,

Nick.

[MzAngel]

Thanks Nick. I really appreciate your reply. I really need to find the time to see my doctor and find time to do something for myself. I have been putting myself last on the list of priorities which isn’t helping me. I’m a working mum so I’d like to spend quality time with my children whenever I can find some spare time rather than doing something on my own. Most days kids have school run and after school activities on top of my work and domestic duties and looking after pets which takes up the whole week for me. My stress level goes up when something else on top of our busy schedule is coming up and when financially we are tight. I would love to do all these and work things out without stressing out and just enjoying everything I do for my kids . Can you suggest anything I can do to just live this life without any stress or worries? Is that even possible?

[baet123]

Hey MzAngel,

Good idea. I think you need to take some time out of your busy schedule and do things that you enjoy. We must look after ourselves before we can look after others right? Your day's are so busy compared to mine but you are an inspiration. Any parent who works to provide for the child/children is an amazing selfless thing. Self-care is super important so we should all treat ourselves and pamper ourselves every now and then. You deserve it! It doesn't have to be something super expensive or anything, just take a day off and do what you want to do. You are worth it you know! We all are!

I would recommend seeing a psychologist. From my experiences and studies it looks like you may be at a point where professional assistance is required. They will be able to supply you with techniques and methods which can greatly assist you.

Nothing in life worth doing isn't easy. I salute you for the job your doing. Your an inspiration. Please see your GP. Discuss the above with him/her and take it from there. Stay strong and positive and we are here for you whenever you need someone to talk to.

Please keep us posted.

All the best,

Nick.