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How are you going, really

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Recently things have been pretty chaotic. 
We’ve been through a pandemic, a tsunami, mass flooding and war. On top of that, we all have lives that can be pretty messy and complicated at times.
This is a lot for anyone to process in only a few years. 
So, I just wanted to ask how people are feeling. I know this is a very broad question, but how are you doing? 

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Valued Contributor
Valued Contributor

Hey GigiGoogles, cute name lol. 


How am I doing? Lol IDK. I've been really trying to cross that mental "line in the sand" the past 2 weeks. 
If my ADHD would just allow me to keep this outlook in the forefront of my mind, I'd be brilliant lol! 


I had the same AHA moment several times today and feel like I've "arrived" at a pretty mentally stable place. 
The best MH I've had in many years, maybe ever? IDK. 


Before Covid I'd had 7y of 5 Courts, which was the worst stress I've known. 

I was FINALLY formally diagnosed with Complex PTSD after the Courts era. We'd known I'd had it but kept it informal for Court processes. 
Then this year I was diagnosed with ADHD. Yep knew I had that for sure!
Just took me 6 decades to realise it lol. 


Sooo after battling a waterfall style roofing arrangement for years, we cemented the mongrel 2 weeks ago. It's almost worked! 


Working FT and solo parenting many children has its challenges. 

BUT IF I can grab a moment of peace amongst the mayhem at work and sometimes at home, I'M GRABBING IT! 

I'm actually beginning to laugh at times too, mostly at our pets and sometimes at the silly radio announcers on the way to and from work. 


That's how I'm doing. 

How are you doing? 

Love EM

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I’m pretty bad lots of stuff going on . Endless amounts of dramas at work and am very stressed by it all .i got told today I may have depression so yeah very much struggling . 

thanks for the how are we really post .hope  your doing well ?

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Champion Alumni

This is such a thoughtful post, thank you GigiGoogles.


With so much change and challenge the last few years, I feel like our tolerance has grown for living in a state of chaos... but we need to remember to pause and check in with each other. To acknowledge our feelings and care for ourselves.


For me, I've been so incredibly tired... I also feel worried whenever I hear the doom of the economy on the news. I am working hard to stay afloat and get ahead but it feels like the odds are stacked against us. 

I am doing my best to keep up my self-care rituals each week and still enjoy the moment but a do worry for the future a lot too.

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What a nice post - thank you!


In all honesty, I am feeling awful right now. I was in a long distance relationship for most of the Vic lockdowns with someone interstate. I broke up with them twice because I couldn't handle the on and off border closures. Then, once rules eased up, I asked if they would be interested in trying again. They moved interstate for me and moved into my home. As soon as they moved in, I began to feel doubt and that has grown to a feeling of feeling trapped. I realise now I felt a similar way when a previous partner moved in with me. I have become a grumpy person and even feel really unattracted to them. I have hardly slept for two months (whereas I am normally a good sleeper) because I am having trouble sharing a bed and dealing with loud breathing and their movements. I find what used to be funny jokes and quirks of theirs super irritating. I don't want to be intimate anymore. just want to be by myself and live my life being unapologetically selfish. I am realising that I was to live independently and be answerable to no one. I feel trapped because they uprooted their life, because I've only given it two months, because it would be a third hit for them, because I don't know how to bring it up and because I worry how it might impact them.

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Hi GigiGoogles,


I feel like the waves of that tsunami still hitting.


Life feels surreal. I don't know if that is because I am working from home and still paying too much attention to the News. Life is far from normal. I can go back to from the office, but no longer want to. What for? I can get up later, don't have to brave the cold or the traffic. I don't have to deal with the outside World if I don't want to. That suits me just fine.


The life changing plans I had in March 2020 have been all but scrapped. I have resigned myself to just going with the flow. The on again off again lockdowns in Melbourne were o.k. at the beginning but the last one is very difficult to recover from. 


Go with the flow as we have no idea what tomorrow brings.

Community Champion
Community Champion

Hey Guest_342,


I hear you. Thank you so much for sharing your experience here, I know how frustrating it can be when you're in a relationship that you've grown out of emotionally. I remember in my last relationship, there came to a point where I was becoming irritated with some of my partner's jokes and quirks a lot more readily than I usually would. I've now recognised that this is a sign in any relationship that there may be underlying points that need to be addressed.


Firstly, I would encourage you to acknowledge what your needs are in a relationship. Whether these are emotional, physical, etc., it is important to note what you value most in a relationship, and whether or not these are being met for you currently.


I think that in this situation, communication is very important. I would have a chat with your partner about how you are feeling, and establish if there is anything that could perhaps be fixed with discussion or compromise. At the end of the day, the only person who knows what's best for you is yourself, which sounds a lot easier said than done, I know. 


Make sure that you're taking good care of yourself during this time as well. If you feel comfortable reaching out to other loved ones (friends or family), it can be helpful to have a third party who knows you well to be able to chat to and receive advice from if needed. Have you ever talked to a GP, psychologist, counsellor, or therapist? They may be able to offer you some professional advice on managing any feelings of stress or anxiety that may arise from this situation.


I hope this is helpful, please continue to chat with us if you'd like as we're here to support you.


Take care, SB

Hi blues23,

Thank you for your reply and despite all the craziness I’ve been doing alright.

I’m sorry you’ve had to go through that, times have been tough and with everything that’s been going on it’s understandable to feel stressed and overwhelmed by it all.

Just know that there’s an amazing community on here to come to anytime it feels like too much, I know I do and the people here are truly wonderful.

I wish you all the best, 



Hi Em, 

Thank you for your reply and that sure sounds like a handful! I couldn’t help but smile when you mentioned your pets because I have two dogs- one who is a rescue greyhound who never fails to do something goofy that makes me crack up with laughter.

I am glad to hear that you are feeling better after what sounds like quite the battle and I wish you all the best,


Hi Banksy92,

Thank you for your reply and I completely understand what you mean by feeling tired, even if we haven’t been able to get out and about as much due to the pandemic (among other things), the mental and emotional toll can be just as exhausting. 
I agree that it is so important to check in with ourselves- this is largely why I posted in the first place- because bottling up thoughts and feelings isn’t healthy and in times of hardship it important to realise that being honest with ourselves about how we are feeling can be the key to overcoming it.

All the best,