Feel like I don't know what I m doing

[Renny16]

hi there

I am new here, i don't really know where to start,but I feel I have anxiety for long time,I always feel worry that I just can get up on early morning,go to toilet n hardly sleep after that, i feel tired all the time in the morning,and always worry abt when I want to go to work. I've worked in hospitality industry for few years,now I am a cook,but it seems I can't get over it,I mean like i feel like i can't focus and panic all the time esp when it's busy and hectic,then I forgot what I am doing,then can't manage my time. I like to keep myself busy but I have few jobs atm after pandemic but it is now made me keep complaining as well not to have time for myself,but if I don't have work, I got more tired & lazy than being busy. Sorry to be complicated. Somehow I don't know what I am good at, feel useless till my age now. My friend kept giving me advices abt living at the moment,not stress too much,but it is so hardly to do than to say.i think i got short term memory,as i hardly remember something ex : forgot where I put my glasses after few mins to the toilet or room. Everytime at work I feel like i am not good enough and easily wanna quit. Always think i wanna study and change career,and for now I am confuse whether I should go find professional help or find a group community to share my problem,as I am not the person who like to talk my problem with stranger.

[james1]

Hey Renny16,

Welcome, and I'm sorry it's taken a while for you to get a reply.

It sounds like you have a lot of thoughts that keep running through your mind, and a lot of worries and stresses. It sounds really exhausting, and I am not surprised that you feel very confused about what to do. It can be really challenging if you're not the kind of person who likes to talk about your problems, especially if you feel like it's really complicated anyway.

So I did want to just give you a virtual thumbs up for coming and talking to us in the first place. I probably won't be able to touch on everything you've written, but that is not because you are confusing. I feel like you've written about your troubles quite well and a lot of what you've described are things that I've also felt previously.

The bit I am hearing is troubling you a lot at the moment is you don't know how to deal with this and it sounds like you didn't quite get the help you wanted from your friend when you explained it to them.

When I tried explaining my own mental health troubles, many of my friends also did not really get it and gave me 'advice' that didn't really help. They wanted to help, but didn't really understand. What I hope you can get from the forums here is to talk to people, and hear from people, who do understand that it's not easy to just live in the moment or not stress too much.

Have you tried reading any posts in the anxiety section of the forums? It can sometimes be helpful to hear from other people who have similar symptoms to you, and hear how they try to cope, or other people's advice to them.

Personally, I find I need a way to 'ground' myself. For example, I might walk around in my little courtyard barefoot just to really feel the ground and focus on that, rather than the thoughts in my head. If I'm stressed about something, I might try to write it down - I have a friend who I sometimes email really long emails, and I just tell him that I'm sending him thoughts that I don't expect him to respond to. I just need to get it out.

Have you found anything similar that works for you?

James

[Renny16]

Hi James

Thanks for reaching me out with thoughtful responses, really need and appreciate it. I have been busy with work just tried to keep me forget a while, I have been to GP & suggested to have a mental treatment plan as I have heavy anxiety problem, so I might to give a try. I will have a look to the forum as well. Thanks anyway 😀