Dealing with everyone

[antsnest]

Hi all. At the moment I'm finding it hard to deal with everyone. The friends who are happy & in love, those whose lives seem perfect, those who have a new baby or are expecting one & have so much to look forward to. Finding it hard to check in on facebook without losing it & telling them all how lucky they are. Feeling very lonely & alone (very different things) & don't really feel i can be honest about how I feel without sounding like a misery-guts. Eating my way through my unhappiness, then cranky at myself for how unhappy I feel. Would really appreciate some feedback as to how I can deal with my feelings, how i can start to overcome the anxiety i feel about how things are not going to get better. Feel like I'm digging a deeper hole every day. Have been like this before but don't want to go back on medication as it makes me feel numb. Any input would be good.

[MarkJT]

Greetings antsnest, welcome to the forums first off. Great to have you here.

First of all your friends that seem to have perfect lives, they don't. Everyone is battling something, from small issues to large issues.

With Facebook and social media in general, people more often than not only post the good things, they never post about the bad. Social media to me is like gambling, you only ever hear of peoples wins, never their losses which more than likely occur more often. Are you to just get off social media all together if it is causing you grief?

I would encourage you to get an appointment with your GP as you are showing signs of depression and you talk of anxiety. Have you been diagnosed with anxiety in the past?

When you were on meds, was it just the one type? Sometimes it is required to test out a few different types to find the one that sits with you the best.

Do you practice mindfulness? It is really good for controlling anxiety. If you have not ever done this, i use an app called, "Smiling Mind" and it works really well. Might be worth a try.

Cheers

Mark.

[gld]

Hi antsnest,

You are in tune with how you are feeling at present and i feel it is import to look after your well being.

As MarkJT spoke about in his post people's lives are not always perfect even if it seems to be as they to have day to day struggles that are not always obvious to others. I feel if social media crashed the world could become a better place because a great deal of it puts out false vibes. Turn it off for a while until you feel less overwhelmed and go see your friends in their true skin.

Your well being is very important to get back on top of and i feel your GP is a good place to start. As you have mentioned in your post you do not like how you feel on your medication, your doctor may need to know this so they could help you find the medication that is good for you.

Keep being in touch with how your feeling, be kind to yourself and don't be too hard on yourself as it will slow down your recovery.

Gen [hugs]