Confused, worn down, rock bottom
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Kind regards ,
Hi and welcome to the forums.
Sorry to hear you lost your job after all those years of service. It is sad to hear that when you mentioned this you lost your job. It sounded a "too hard basket". I also want to mention how brave it is to post and tell a little of your story.
In your post you said...
have been trying to get a diagnosis but can’t get help. I’ve been to so many dr, psychologist, psychiatrist etc. no one is diagnosing me with anything but they keep telling me I have a bunch of things and offering me anti depressants.
Can I ask what sort of diagnosis you are looking for? Or what did they tell you?
Here is my story (or part thereof) ... My psychologist said that I have depression, anxiety and suicidal thoughts. Outside of that I have I ticked all the boxes on the cognitive distortions check list. I can get overwhelmed by too may things to deal with at once. When somethings goes wrong I can blame myself and call my a failure etc. A couple of other people in my family have spoken with psychologists ... one was GAD and other was "sensory overload". I have wished for a diagnosis that I could put it all down to but that does not work for me. So I have a bits of lots of things all of which give me a negative outlook on life. It is what it is!
My last comment is, and I don't know how long were with each psych*, but for me, this is a long journey. Like a marathon vs a 100m sprint.
If you want to talk more about what is going on for you, please write back. The people here are very supportive and non-judgemental.
In your initial post you said ... "they keep telling me I have a bunch of things"
Can you say what sort of things?
And I'd say losing your job is quite stressful and some days would make you angry or sad etc. And more frustrating and anger at the lack of support.
What sort of work did you do?
My last question is .... do you still see a psychologist/psychiatrist?
Hi split peas
like small wolf I wonder too if you are seeing any mental health professionals? And do you have a partner/friends/family to talk to?
I don’t know a lot about the situation but could that be grounds for discrimination forcing someone to resign because of mental health issues?
here to talk about everything if you’d like?
Split peas Dear. You poor thing. I dont know what to say except that I honestly feel and empathise for you. Believe me, I do understand what you are going thru. Im suffering alot as well, and don,t know who to trust as well. The only thing that helps me is saying prayers on YouTbe and watching Jesus movies. The big bonus is having my cat Merryweather on my lap. Honestly it helps. Being Catholic means alot to me. Is there anything you know or like that will soothe you? I also have a nasty terminal illness to deal with and Im stuck in a chair. So the internet and having nice little snacks also help. Please dont feel Im trying to push you Im only trying help you find some moments of peace, with the things that you like. Try not to worry too much on diagnosis. Ive got a few, they are only descrptive words. They do nothing for the way you feel. Keep communicating with the caring souls in the forum. It all helps. If I do hear from you , no pressure. Tell me what are your favourite things are.God Bless you dear one🍒🙂
Not sure how helpful my suggestion will be for you....
one book which my psychologist suggested I read was called "the happiness trap". I know that it can also be borrowed from my local library and so I guess it might be in your library as well. If so, it might be worth looking at?
I just have depression, anxiety and suicidal thoughts. There were no real tests except to gauge how things were in the week(s) prior to my session(s).
Do you have any ways or strategies of dealing with the anxiety and depression? If not, I can share some ideas. You could also look on the threads on grounding and mindfulness.