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Anxiety about being inadequate

Leeroyo1
Community Member
I constantly feel inadequate at work. I feel like my co_workers are better than me.
It does take time for me to learn new things...and l am slow. I try my best. I am constantly worried about making mistakes. I just wish l could feel equal to my collegues.

There are several younger collegues whom l work with, who have got promoted before me
I feel like l need to take stock, and realise that my personality doesn't fit into a manegerial position.
I also struggle giving direction. I like to be directed by my collegues.
My constant catastrophising over things that may go wrong at work is paralysing me with fear
I feel like l should be better at my job than what l am.
Sometimes l feel like my boss thinks l'm a bit of a joke, when it takes longer for me to work out a computer system.
I'm glad l could post my problems with anxiety on here.
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Croix
Community Champion
Community Champion

Dear Leeroyo1~

I read that you use a CD at times to help with meditation , which can lead to a calmer state. Sometimes it can help to have an alternative. I've often found that something that has normally been reliable sometimes does not seem to work.

I use a free phone app called "Smiling Mind"

https://www.smilingmind.com.au/

I've found this excellent. It has umpteen settings, many for the NSW Education Department, but many for adults too. I have the attention span of a gnat, and can set it to give me frequent enough prompts to keep my mind on track. It works, it does take a little practice to get used to it.

Croix

Leeroyo1
Community Member
Hi,
Thank you Croix. I will check it out.
Have a good week ahead.

Warm regards
Leeroy01

Hi Leeroyo1

feeling like things can go wrong is common....I felt the same when I younger and yes it can get in the way of our happiness for sure

Thankyou for your super kind post! If we didnt have people like yourself posting the forums wouldnt exist

Great to have you as part of the Beyond Blue forum family Leeroyo1 🙂

my kind thoughts

Paul

Thank you. I stumbled onto this forum by accident. But it has been invaluable to me.
It's nice to have support.

My shift has changed at work, and l have to start early. I am a bit anxious about waking up on time which is causing me to stay awake. Better try get some sleep.

Thanks again.

Leeroy01.

Hi JacintaMarie,
Yes. It can be difficult.. l know how you feel. I think some negative thoughts are a cognitive distortion....but it's hard to believe you can do something when you have so much self doubt.

It is something l will have to work on.
Thanks for replying.

Warm regards
Leeroy01

Eire2
Community Member

Hi Leeroyo1

I feel the same way. I’m so stressed about losing my job, I have a fear I will lose my job. I don’t feel as confident in work as I use to do. I feel my colleagues think I can’t do my job. I find it hard to concentrate and remember. I’m very edgy, don’t sleep great,

Leeroyo1
Community Member
Hi Eire2,

Yes, l feel the same way at my work. It is very difficult. I face this every day when l go to work. I try to think positive, listen to meditation, or do some breathing excercises.

Somehow, the inadequacy never leaves me.
I also think negative thoughts are self sabotaging....but it is hard to stop it....l think if l could harness some positive thoughts, and believed l could do it....the situation would be better.

Warm regards
Leeroy01