Nervous about counselling

Coffeebean · ‎11-05-2017

I thought I should post a newbie hello. It seems the polite thing to do, rather than lurking.

I am married, mother of two, working part time.

I've been taking an antidepressant for almost four weeks now, (first time) and need to see my gp again to arrange counselling (also first time). Side effects haven't been too bad, just restlessness and low appetite.

I've realised that I'm particularly bad at talking about myself. I am a really, really good listener, but when it comes to talking, nothing comes out. It's almost as if saying "I'm fine" has become automatic.

Coffeebean · ‎13-09-2017

Thanks shred, thanks Jay.

I'm still up and down, but trying to do stuff that I like. I'm trying hard at the moment. Feels like pedalling uphill sometimes 😉

anxiety is a big struggle. I have stuff I need to do, but avoiding and procrastinating. I know it's not healthy to do that, I have to try to find a way through the anxiety.

Ill keep trying.

CB

Shred1106 · ‎13-09-2017

Well done Coffeebean - keep at it. Time will flow and you will continue to move forward! We are all here for you!

Guest_128 · ‎13-09-2017

Righto Bean,

I can't read the guts

Could you please give me a run down.

You know I like you,but I am Dory,so help me out please 🤕

I am Dory, all I know is I really really like you.

BballJ · ‎13-09-2017

Hi Coffeebean ,

I know anxiety is such a big struggle, when I am in the midst of my anxiety battles, I do the same as you and procrastinate about many things. It is a hard cycle but all we can do is keep trying and keep pushing through those imaginary barriers and show them they cannot hold you back.

Remember, even if you are peddling uphill, you are still moving forward.

My best,

Jay

Coffeebean · ‎14-09-2017

Dory, sorry, there's not much to say. My husband dragged me to the GP back in May, and I was diagnosed with depression, which has been going on for probably a few years. And I'm also realising that anxiety has been around even longer.

Unfortunately i have a family history of depression and anxiety, on the female side.

So im trying medication and counselling. And having lots of ups and downs.

Today is the anniversary of my mothers death. And this year, I'm the same age she was when she died. And right now I have a massive headache.

CB

Shred1106 · ‎14-09-2017

Hi Coffeebean

Anniversaries can be trying at the best of times let alone when you have anxiety. I just try to take a bit of time for me during the actual day to remember the good times.Then I do something for me - like a walk through the bush (short), sit on top of a big hill, have a massage or just watch nature and make use of the time to do some calming exercises.

Just be kind to yourself and give yourself permission to feel whatever pops up. It's nature's way of us healing in our own time at our own pace. Everything revolves around time..and your anxiety too will fade with it.

You are doing something about what you feel...thousands are not. At the heart of it all we are who we are and we have taken huge steps to move these feelings into different spaces that don't affect us in the same way. That is monumental!

Well done..keep up the good work. At least you are working on it and that's all you can accomplish today.Set little goals and reward yourself when you reach them as you will. You are valued as a person and as a wife. We are here for you.

Guest_128 · ‎14-09-2017

Hi Bean,

Sorry about today being crap,sorry your mum has left you.

Sounds like you might have a good hubby looking after you.

Try to get a good night sleep

Dory💐

BballJ · ‎14-09-2017

Hi Coffeebean ,

I know it can be tough when those sort of anniversaries and just add extra stress to your daily life. The feelings will pass. Just keep being easy on yourself.

My best,

Jay