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Worried mother

Fambam
Community Member
Hi, I'm new to this but have recently found out my daughter has been abusing ice in an attempt to escape her depression. My whole family has been involved and kept this from me, I feel hurt and betrayed by this. I don't know where to go from her or what to do. 
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Jacko777
Blue Voices Member
Blue Voices Member

Hi Fambam,

Welcome to the Beyond Blue forums. I am really sorry to hear this, it must be a terrible shock, I can't imagine. There is some info on reachout.com however I think you could ring the Beyond Blue phone service, it's free and 24/7 and there are professionals that can help you with your specific situation. 

If your daughter is already seeing a counselor then perhaps you could be a part of a visit or ensure she makes an appointment to talk about this. I understand you feel betrayed, it must be hard, but right now you want to find compassion so you can work on the problem. Perhaps they were trying to protect you from this situation?

Talk any time.

Jack

Sawyer
Blue Voices Member
Blue Voices Member

Well said Jack,

Fambam,

The most important thing is that your daughter knows that you are there for her. There are several services available that can provide information and direction for both you and your daughter. These are serious issues and finding out a little more about what your daughter is dealing with, can do a world of good for both of you. Foundations like Drug ARM do excellent work here in Australia, provide easy online access to information and have several support services for both you and your daughter.

In the absence of further information, my capacity to offer advice is limited. However you should know that drug use and depression are not uncommon to see together, as you say, she is looking for a means to cope. I only say this because you should both know that you are not alone. Many others have been in similar situations to you and your daughter and have recovered.

The key issue is understanding how she is feeling and why she feels that turning to drugs will help. When an individual suffers from depression, they may feel like their is no way out of the darkness, and will do anything to alleviate the burden that they bear constantly. With the help of counsellor or psychologist, together you can begin to talk through some other, healthier, ways that she can deal with how she is feeling when it all gets to much. It is important to include her in this particularly, so she can begin to develop a sense of control over how she is feeling, that way even if when things get hard, she has strategy and she can hold onto that, knowing that her family is supporting her.

As always, if the situation ever seems to be spiralling out of control, or your daughter is at immediate risk, seek out services like LifeLine. 

Always free to chat,

Kind Regards,

Sawyer

 

Kathryne
Blue Voices Member
Blue Voices Member

HI Fambam,

I have seen what ice can do to a person . Can you get your daughter to visit the local Mental Health team in the community, you may need to obtain a referral from your gp first, depending on where you live. 

I also suggest you contact one of these support groups to help you understand your daughters journey

Lifeline 131114  

Beyond Blue 1300224636.