Rastas22,
Thank you for sharing something so deeply personal with us, we really appreciate you reaching out. I'm so sorry to hear that you're going through this. It can be heartbreaking to watch somebody you love struggling like this. I've had several experiences now where I've observed behavioural changes in loved ones who may not be comfortable reaching out for help, and I can imagine you're feeling a little lost in this moment.
The verbal anger and other behavioural changes may be indicative of a deeper, underlying problem that he's struggling with. You've mentioned here that you've raised your observations with him to little avail. Have you tried asking him to open up to you about what may be causing his distress? Perhaps he's struggling with something internally, or another life stressor, like work?
I know that if I'm struggling with something and I've been keeping it to myself, being able to express what's wrong to somebody who will take a genuine interest and respond with patience, love, and empathy can be refreshing. This can also be a good stepping-stone to encouraging him to reach out to a professional for help, if he's not quite ready to do this yet.
If he does not feel comfortable opening up to you yet, journalling may also be a good strategy to suggest, if you would feel comfortable raising it with him. It can be a great way to consolidate our more difficult feelings, and pinpoint what may be causing distress and why.
It's also important to make sure you're taking care of yourself during this time. Your own wellbeing is important, and it can be easy for this to deteriorate if we are devoting our time and energy to supporting our loved ones, which of course, is also important. Would you be comfortable having a chat to your GP, a therapist, or psychologist about how you're feeling, if you haven't already? It may also be useful to receive some professional advice on how to respond to and support your husband.
I wish you all the best, and please feel free to reach out more if you need to, we're here to support you.
Take care, SB
