Hi all, I'm new here, and seeking advice or strategies.
My partner of nearly a year, a single mum with 2 young kids. Recently separated she was made to feel anxious from her ex's controlling/narcissistic behaviour.
She goes through stages of anxiety, so I've just found out. Until now I thought she was just moody or very distracted but I've just learnt more about anxiety symptoms, and it all makes more sense now! plus she has started with professional help so hopefully will start to manage ok soon.
my issue, is from a relationship point of view: she is the love of my life, but we rarely get to see each other. She is always tired, and of course kids do prevent us from being together too, which is ok coz kids are important too!
we get to see each other maybe 1-2 per times per week which I feel is not enough, she agrees but between work, family, fatigue and having her time it's difficult. She has OCD tendencies too, for instance we recently had days off work but couldn't be together coz her OCD made her stay home and clean/do housework all the time!!
It seems her anxiety gets worse when I do manage to drag her away for fun time together coz she needs to get home to do all her jobs! She is such a fun person when she's happy.
how do I encourage her to have our together time and remove her from "all of her jobs" that she needs to do? Shes the busiest person ever but I wonder sometimes if she all those things she has to do are all really that important! Some are or course.
How would you manage this situation and try to find more time together to build out relationship further?
thank you
