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Hi shelleagle welcome here
You resisted medication? And now your daughter is declining? It is a no brainer for me that us humans need a helping hand throughout our lives if we are diagnosed such serious illnesses. She needs any medication recommended by her GP or psychologist. The latter is likely behind the scenes wishing you had consented for they can only do so much. Recovery takes a mix of therapy, medication, aging (maturing) good environment , eliminating toxic people from her life (eg bullies) and a stable home life. Losing her boyfriend would not have helped.
I think you are doing all you can and you are a good parent. Try not to be critical of your actions. You are learning on the run. Its tough on everyone in the house.
One thing that might help is to provide her with a future projection of entertainment. Tickets for a concert, movies and the like. I live in a regional town and we travel 75kms to a major town for that activity. Just a thought. At 15yo I was interested in aircraft. My dad took me to an air show. I joined the RAAF at 17yo.
Finally, Beyond Blue often has teens writing in with their issues. You might want to recommend her try this. Its anonymous and it might help.
Tony WK
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Hi there Shelleagle
Welcome to Beyond Blue and thank you so much for coming here and providing your post.
I’m really sorry to hear of the struggles that your daughter has been facing – though it’s excellent that you’ve been able to have it diagnosed and further followed up.
Our son (now 17yo) had some tough times during the last couple of years, but last year in particular and he was supported really well through his school and in particular a “House” teacher as well as the school counsellor. I find it awesome of you that you are willing to help out as much as you can (believe me, not all parents fit into this category), but like you, we did everything we thought was right to try and help. But you can only do so much and I’m actually not quite sure what the psych meant about ‘challenging your daughter’.
I think if we were to have done something like that with our son, it may have cause further problems and issues.
My own psych at the time, suggested to make sure they know that we are there for him, but to definitely not harp on it and so much so, that to leave it in their court if they feel able to raise it with you. But our son pretty much shut us out of his troubles and so for us, it was very frustrating. We wanted to be there for him and were so open for him to share and talk – I think largely because of how I suffer from my own mental illness, it makes me more receptive to these kinds of things. At least he knew that, which was important.
But he received good support from his school and this year he’s going much better.
Do you think your daughter’s school may be able to offer some kind of support in this way?
I guess another thing I really tried to find out was whether he was having certain difficulties at school – either with the work, home-work, fellow students or even teachers – just to see if there’s some thing that comes up as a possible trigger?
I might send this off now and do hope to be able to hear from you again
Neil
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Thank you for supportive words. The school has been fantastic, after missing almost a whole term of school last year, we got her back to going everyday, small steps at a time. They have been very supportive and doing everything in their power to get her back to school and mAke it more comfortable for her. Small schools are an advantage sometimes. She gets good marks in school and doesn't seem to have a problem with the work, except if she has to make a presentation. The main problem that we can work out is social, there are a couple of kids who intimidate her but without bullying. Think their confidence is what is threatening to her. She had a couple of incidents where her so called friends stabbed her in the back, like all teenage girls go through, but she just can't seem to cope with life's little bumps. She now believes she has no friends and that everyone hates her, which I know is not true.
It is really hard to know what to do, you want to support them but at the same time you get so frustrated.
it is really comforting to read comments on this page and realise we are not alone. We have a great support network of friends and family and I wish that she would see this sometimes. On top of all this, she is still a teenage girl with normal teenage issues and sometimes it's hard to distinguish between the two.
Im glad that your son is recovering well, let's hope it continues. Again thank you for your support
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SE. Sorry about the abbreviation. The first thing that springs to mind, is it possible she is being bullied. All the classic signs are there. Maybe her boyfriend is also being targeted. If she is being bullied, try and get her to tell you. I wouldn't come right out and ask her, unless you have a real close relationship with her. Does she have a computer? If her classmates know about her background, they are inclined to 'gang' up on anything they see as different. Maybe she is being cyber-bullied. Have you tried talking to the principle, sometimes that helps. Unfortunately, if she is being bullied, she is going to be terrified to tell you for fear of back lash. You mentioned where she was stabbed in the back, did you mean emotionally, this could really send her into a backwards spiral. If she was literally stabbed, that's assault and needs to be dealt with. If she is being bullied, sometimes talking to other parents helps, sometimes. Do you have an association where parents/teachers socialize, this would help bring whatever the situation is to a head.
There's always been bullies, but they seem to be getting worse. It needs dealing with before your daughter has a breakdown.
Hope you can get some help for her.
Pipsy
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