Boyfriend attempted suicide now back on Ice

[Sal222]

Hi all,

My boyfriend tried to commit suicide on the other day and was thankfully unsucessful.

He has been suffering with depression and addictions for most of his life and has always struggled with suicidal thoughts.

He refused to go to hospital and he says he knows he needs help but isn’t ready to get some.

Since then he has been hanging out with a “friend” who he is doing ice with (has been off it for a fe months). He has barely slept or eaten since his attempt.

He asked me last night for a few days apart because he says it’s what he needs. I want to give him what he needs (trying not to smother him with love ) however am terrified that something will happen as he lives alone.

This “friend” keeps trying to intervene in our relationship and called me on the phone last night to tell me she thinks that me and him do need some space.

I’m worried that she is manipulating him and Is using his depressed State to drive a wedge between us (she has a lot of opinions about a relationship that isn’t hers) and keeps encouraging him to do ice with her.

not sure what what I should do or where I should go from here?

Please send through any advice

[Billyc]

Hi Sal,

Im sorry what your going through, It’s a terrible situation. All I can say to you is I hope you understand the difference between being sympathetic and being compassionate...

you clearly care for him, but at what cost to him and your own well-being?

I wouldn’t worry about his friend too much, I’d be more concerned with your partners substance abuse, and the risks involved to him and you, short term and long term.

Hanging around and waiting for him to get help doesn’t really sound like a plan that’s putting yourself first...

thats where I would start..

coming here is great so well done! Try and stay on board and keep everyone’s in the loop, it helps a lot.. also branch out and read others threads there is a wealth of resource here among strangers...

best