Some people's idea of 'fun' can be seriously questionable. When someone makes fun, pays to ask what it is they're really making. Making life hell in some way? Making themself out to be better than someone, at that person's expense? Making a statement of ignorance? Making light of the fact they have mental health issues or serious issues with their perception? They could be making a whole stack of stuff but 'fun' isn't it.
Just expanding on a few of those things
- Making themself out to be better than someone, at that person's expense. The expense means we pay with our self esteem. Kind of like 'This joke I make about you will cost you an ounce of your self esteem'. Over time, when all the ounces add up, the cost to us can be great. With the degrading aspect, it can also occasionally be 'If I degrade you, it makes me a grade above you and that makes me feel good about myself'. No one's really better than anyone else, we're all just different
- Making a statement of ignorance. If someone 'makes fun', they can be ignoring the pain they cause, ignoring the need to show us compassion, ignoring the need to think before they speak (ignoring the need for a filter) while ignoring a whole lot of other things. Basically, this makes them ignorant, with all that ignoring going on
- Making light of or shedding light on the fact they have mental health issues (issues with their perception for example). If nice, thoughtful, caring people lead us to feel happines through what they say and how they behave, you could say the way they think and behave is healthy. On the other hand, if cruel, thoughtless and unfeeling people (who can't feel for us) lead us to feel like garbage, you could say the way they think and behave is unhealthy. Mentally, you could say they have a very unhealthy perception. Pays to question people's mental health or healthiness. Often they'll tell you there's nothing wrong with them and that it's you with the problem. Hmm🤔, what can I say. Degrading and depressing people feel degrading and depressing, there's no two ways about it
I think one of the greatest challenges in life is to make some fun for our self or make fun of our self in amusing ways. For example, while someone could make short jokes that are impacting, the fun response may be 'If I'm below the average height and you are of the average height, doesn't this technically make me exceptional and you seriously average? I'd much rather be labeled as exceptional than average'. Or maybe 'While I appear short, you come up short in ways that aren't so obvious. Being a sensitive kind of guy/gal, I can easily sense them. Hey, call it a talent'. Can take a heck of a lot of practice before someone develops a quick wit with which to combat people's comments. Do you feel there could be a bit of a comedian in you waiting to come out? You'll find a lot of successful comedians struggled with bullying and self esteem issues when they were younger. Btw, I cannot stand comedians who make fun at the expense of others. In my mind, they've sold out. They've kinda sold their soul for the big bucks, at a cost to others. Every dollar hurt someone. I don't find them funny at all. I do find them ignorant though.😊
