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Sophie_M Do you have a safety plan?
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Safety planning involves creating a structured plan – ideally with support from your health professional or someone you trust – that you work through when you’re experiencing suicidal thoughts, feelings, distress or crisis. Your safety plan starts wi... View more

Safety planning involves creating a structured plan – ideally with support from your health professional or someone you trust – that you work through when you’re experiencing suicidal thoughts, feelings, distress or crisis. Your safety plan starts with things you can do by yourself, such as thinking about your reasons to live and distracting yourself with enjoyable activities. It then moves on to coping strategies and people you can contact for support – your friends, family and health professionals. The safety planning model was developed in the US by suicide prevention experts Barbara Stanley and Gregory Brown. It has been used extensively by US veterans’ health organisations, hospital emergency departments and high schools, and there is strong evidence that it works. Many health professionals in Australia also use some form of safety planning to support clients experiencing suicidal thoughts or feelings, or after a suicide attempt. beyondblue has an app you can use to create a safety plan, called BeyondNow. The BeyondNow app takes the principles of safety planning and makes it even easier to use – so rather than carrying around a piece of paper, you’ve got it on your phone at all times. It’s free to download from the Apple Store or Google Play. If you don’t have a smartphone or would prefer to use your desktop or laptop, BeyondNow is also available to use on our website. Do you have a safety plan? Do you have questions around how you might create one, or fill out some of the sections? This thread is for discussing ideas around creating a safety plan, and sharing tips about what has been most useful about this process for you. Below are two videos featuring Peter and Nic, who have both used safety plans successfully. Peter Nic

Sophie_M PLEASE READ THIS FIRST: posting in this section
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Life gets pretty hard sometimes and many people in this online community have had times where they have thought about hurting themselves or ending their life. This can be a stressful and at times overwhelming experience, and this section is here to h... View more

Life gets pretty hard sometimes and many people in this online community have had times where they have thought about hurting themselves or ending their life. This can be a stressful and at times overwhelming experience, and this section is here to help members who have had these experiences. This is a place to share where you are at, seek ideas for help and know that you are not alone. We are here to create a safe environment for everyone. Please do not provide any details about any plans/ideas that you may have had to hurt yourself, and importantly, help us to understand if you are safe by letting us know in the post. Making comments that let us know that you are having thoughts, but are safe, helps us to know that your conversation can continue without interruption, and that we do not need to put any further follow up for you in place. This section will not be for everyone.It shows posts from people who are distressed, offers public replies to these posts, and encourages people to come back and share how they got past that difficult point in time - what worked, what didn’t and how they now approach these difficult thoughts. It is important to think about what you want from the forums, what information you need and what threads will be helpful to your situation, rather than reading everything that is posted. For some people this section might be difficult to read – if it is not helping how you feel, then please consider moving to another section. This section, like the rest of our forums, is closely monitored and all posts are reviewed by moderators before publication. Moderators will also ensure that anyone needing follow up will be provided with information about how to access further support. ​This section remains a discussion forum focused on helping each other through the dark times, it is not a crisis support service. Any posts that do not abide by the community rules will not be published. Unlike other areas of the forum, threads in this section will be closed after a period of one month of inactivity. If you are in crisis or need immediate help, assistance is not available via these forums. Please call Suicide Call Back 1300 659 467, Lifeline 13 11 14 or contact emergency services on 000.

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white knight Suicidal thoughts- how to U-turn
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Brother, uncle suicided. I, my sister and daughter all made attempts. Two weeks ago my wife's nephew passed the same way (unofficially). In my 67 years I think I had suicidal thoughts hundreds of times. Every time I reversed it- how is this done? Her... View more

Brother, uncle suicided. I, my sister and daughter all made attempts. Two weeks ago my wife's nephew passed the same way (unofficially). In my 67 years I think I had suicidal thoughts hundreds of times. Every time I reversed it- how is this done? Here as some ways- Time. In the depth of sadness taking time to pass by as there is "no rush to escape the demons"Breathe. Take long deep breaths, hold them when out and in for several seconds. Appreciate that action, you can breath, it is a wonder, a giftMove. Get up and walk up the street and back. Dont go far, your absence will be painful for othersLove. Let yourself love you. Appreciate. It's ok, it is all ok.Cry. Let it out. Changes. Once recovered alter your life with survival in mind. Employment, environment, toxic people, follow your dreams and seek out your true selfSeek help. You know you need it. Find the help you deserve. We arent super human.Pluck a comment that's positive. For me it was from my dad before my attempt- "better to be the best part time dad than no dad at all"Rest. Calm yourself, rest, reflect and gather what is valuable in your life. Suicide path is a hard road to walk, it hurts, its sad and its emotional. It can be devastating for family and friends. Action. What ever it takes. Any other road you take is better than the alternative you have considered.It's ok. it's all ok. Talk. Seek out you chosen professional. Chat away. Follow the road to recovery. Talk on this forum?Praise yourself. You've made it, now pat yourself on the back. Do you have ideas to make that U-turn? TonyWK

hannahjoanne I’m thinking of ending things
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I feel so broken and useless. Since the start of this year it’s been one negative thing after another. I’ve tried to get a psychiatrist appointment to adjust my meds but now I’m on a three month wait list to get an appointment. I don’t know if I can ... View more

I feel so broken and useless. Since the start of this year it’s been one negative thing after another. I’ve tried to get a psychiatrist appointment to adjust my meds but now I’m on a three month wait list to get an appointment. I don’t know if I can make it until then. Everyday my inner monologue in a constant mantra or suicidal thoughts. I am barely keeping myself together at work and am having panic attacks regularly. On top of that I’m constantly stressed about finances and paying rent on time that everything seems useless. I barely have any close friends and I can’t see anyone wanting to be in a relationship with me. I don’t enjoying doing anything anymore and I feel so tired all the time. I’ve been self harming because it’s the only thing that makes me feel in control. I feel so lost and like a massive failure. Is this all my life is supposed to be? I won’t leave much of impact when I leave. I just wish I wasn’t here. I feel like it would be better for everyone.

_grey what next
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i dont know what to do nowi push people away when they try to help mei think im worth nothing i starve myself each day beyond copingi just ruined my own friendship with two people by forging screenshots what should i do now

i dont know what to do nowi push people away when they try to help mei think im worth nothing i starve myself each day beyond copingi just ruined my own friendship with two people by forging screenshots what should i do now

Useless_one Where do I go now
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As the title states where do I go now.I have never turned to asking complete strangers help. I'm at the lowest or lows and I don't see an exit that isn't suicide , my life is infested with hate and self torment,the constant thoughts of suicide fill m... View more

As the title states where do I go now.I have never turned to asking complete strangers help. I'm at the lowest or lows and I don't see an exit that isn't suicide , my life is infested with hate and self torment,the constant thoughts of suicide fill my brain,I sit empty in life and empty in soul and I'm sick of asking for help to be jumped from person to person to be told the same over and over...I sick of feeling like I'm all ways unwanted by other...

Kat-E-P Feeling stuck
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Hi there, I’ve a history of CPTSD and BPD, I’ve been going through med changes for over a year and now I’m having another back to a dose I was previously on. My best friend has needed to step back from our friendship because I am negative and helping... View more

Hi there, I’ve a history of CPTSD and BPD, I’ve been going through med changes for over a year and now I’m having another back to a dose I was previously on. My best friend has needed to step back from our friendship because I am negative and helping me is too traumatic which it totally fair, and I do not blame her at all. it’s been a very hard time and she has been through a lot with me, I totally understand she needs a break. But Now I’m scared that I will also burn out my husband so I think I need to keep all of my thoughts and struggles to myself except for when I see my psychologist or psychiatrists. I relapsed with self harm to try to feel something different after a few months of not doing it. It didn’t help. Now I just feel sad, alone and helpless stuck on a cycle of med change after med change. Wondering if a combination that works for me will come up. In the meantime the loneliness feels heart breaking

E_ What happens if I tell my therapist I want to kill myself?
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I'm worried about being sent somewhere I don't want to be. Is it OK to tell your therapist everything? Will they let me just leave the appointment and go home? Can I stop going to sessions if I choose?

I'm worried about being sent somewhere I don't want to be. Is it OK to tell your therapist everything? Will they let me just leave the appointment and go home? Can I stop going to sessions if I choose?

EleanorMae1994 I don't know anymore
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I don't know what to do anymore. I want to disappear but I don't want to kill myself but I definitely want to disappear. I am so anxious and stressed and depressed I feel so trapped in my own head.

I don't know what to do anymore. I want to disappear but I don't want to kill myself but I definitely want to disappear. I am so anxious and stressed and depressed I feel so trapped in my own head.

rubyrue Vent/how I’m feeling
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I was in a car crash in December and I cry most nights wishing I passed that night. I am sad. I feel empty. I don’t have motivation. I’ve tried & tried. I feel as if I don’t have anyone to turn to, I’ve tried to tell my mum about my anxiety or depres... View more

I was in a car crash in December and I cry most nights wishing I passed that night. I am sad. I feel empty. I don’t have motivation. I’ve tried & tried. I feel as if I don’t have anyone to turn to, I’ve tried to tell my mum about my anxiety or depression she just laughs. My partner admitted to me “I just don’t get it” which is amazing that he doesn’t understand how I’m feeling or why my mental illness make me feel like that but I need someone who can. . This is my first time using this forum thingo.

anon_1475 i feel emotionally miserable
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i’m constantly filled by the fear that everyone who’s meant to love me hates me. i feel really uncared for, especially by a particular loved one, and can’t stop thinking about how life just doesn’t seem to be getting much better. i want to just give ... View more

i’m constantly filled by the fear that everyone who’s meant to love me hates me. i feel really uncared for, especially by a particular loved one, and can’t stop thinking about how life just doesn’t seem to be getting much better. i want to just give up.

successisajourney What to do if your parents display family violence
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Hi,I am studying Year 11 in VIC. I am an Australian citizen and have moved to a lot of countries since I was born. I have had a pretty rough and rocky childhood, which includes sexual abuse and family violence. Being a girl from an Indian Background ... View more

Hi,I am studying Year 11 in VIC. I am an Australian citizen and have moved to a lot of countries since I was born. I have had a pretty rough and rocky childhood, which includes sexual abuse and family violence. Being a girl from an Indian Background who completely had to believe and obey my parents' orders every second of my life I moved to AUS in 2021. I have a previous history of self-harm, suicidal thoughts, attempting suicide, mental health diagnosis (BPD - Boderline Personality Disorder), physical health problem such as right ankle tibia fracture due to sucide attempt, skin graft because of potential risks of developing cancer on the surged area (right leg - metal plates and screws placed on 01 Sep 2021), a major accident - 2 days extreme verge of homelessness due to my mother's ruthless actions towards me (i fell down the same day at school - fainted and experienced seizures in which I had hitv my head, leg and arm multiple times which might have resulted the metal plates in my right ankle to twist making it difficult for me to walk now, my head is in a bad state - by which I mean that it is constantly stinging and aching, my left wrist is undergoing horrible pain at the moment as well. The most important thing I wanted to convey is that my concern for my safety. I do not feel safe at home as I am scared that I might involve myself in sucide attempts due to too much accumulation of stress. I do not access to mobile which makes it harder for me to get support... Please advice me what to do now as I have a stable Internent Connecttion and a smart device. I convey my deepest gratitude to everyone reading this and have replied to my post. NOTE: CHANGE IS INEVITABLE AND I AM DEEPLY SORRY TO WHOEVER THAT MAY BE MENTALLY DISTURBED BY THIS POST...