Sexual performance and medication

[white knight]

As we are members with disorders or carers we cannot discuss medication types. But we can describe overcoming hurdles.

Between 2003 and 2009 a period when l was misdiagnosed and therefore prescibed the wrong (more) potent medication, l lost my sex drive. I was 47-53yo.That issue compounded our relationship problems that of step parent issues between my daughters and my defacto gf.

In 2008 l finally sought help from my GP. He prescribed a well known medication that needed to be taken at least half an hour prior to sex. The biggest barrier was that such events needed to be planned rather that spontaneity.

Eventually everything returned to normal with the right medicine and new diagnosis. But it took time.

If you are on medication your sex drive can be effected. If this happens talk to your GP sooner rather than later.

Believe me, its no big deal, it is a downside to tolerating meds but you and your partner, once used to the routine will overcome the feeling of loss and lack of manhood.

Many men feel they are less of a man by seeking some assistance. But from a females perspective you are more of a man by getting such help.

Tony WK

[H2Ohog]

Hi! I'm in a similar situation in relation to age & negative effect of medication but I'm female! It's not so much a performance issue but a complete lack of feeling. Meds have helped most other aspects of my depression but seems to have completely eradicated my want or desire to have sex (which is not a normal way for my husband of 25 years and I to be).

I feel that the doctors don't see this as a major issue but we do. My husband is genuinely understanding in most things but thinks I should be able to just think more about it and just act on it. He doesn't understand or can't grasp the concept that it never enters my mind anymore. He wants me to set a reminder in my phone to remind me to be affectionate. His theory is if I do this every day, it will become a habit then eventually I'll just do it without thinking and it will feel normal again & not forced.

I can't even do that constantly which makes it look like I'm not trying. It's very frustrating.

Maree

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[MsPurple]

Hi Everyone

As a young adult (mid 20s) I found that with my old medication I had no drive at all. It also to achieve an orgasm. I found this very frustrating as I would never initiate it with my partner, they always had to do so. And they felt like they had done something wrong as I could not always achieve orgasm. It can be frustrating but at the time I was 22/23 and I was too embarased to talk about it with my doctor. As I was young I didn't think they would find this a high priority. We did find ways around it and we did other things to show affection with each other. I think it is a good idea to talk to your GP about your concerns regardless of age and gender. This is a common side effect and it can help for your GP or therapist (which I talked to about this as I was more comfortable then talking to the dr) to know and help you overcome barriers. I also think the medication side effects vs benefits is a big thing to consider as well and openly discussing this is imperative with your dr. I changed meds due to their recommendation not due to mine. It always helps to be open with them so you can enjoy life to the fulliest, including intimate moments with someone you love.