Protection against doom and gloom

[white knight]

I feel very sorry for negative thinkers. Once you become a positive "half full" person you never look back, no matter what life throws at you, you'll pick yourself up and dust yourself off, to fight another day. This is because you accept that life is naturally full of the unexpected and of challenges... that never end.

However, being positive doesn't mean, if you have a MI, that you dont have down times,  it's how you get back up is the difference. As I've aged I've found that older people tend to talk about their illnesses both mental and physical, much more often, in fact I have two male friends on the wrong side of 70yo that constantly talk about their problems. One partner of them pulled me aside to ask me what she can do about her man talking about his woes- anxiety is always the topic but lately it goes from that to organ scans, carpal tunnel and general physical ailments then back to anxiety. How do you cope with it and decrease it? was her questions

Not being of a professional level I advised her to seek therapy for him. But it raised to me the seriousness of what I was feeling with my 2 friends especially because I was no longer enjoying their company- at all. One side of me wanted to scream "but you are walking, talking, observing, laughing and eating all without aid!! "feel sorry for yourself for having no shoes until you see someone with no feet"!! and that taking 4 tablets is no different to me taking my 10 tablets, why? he asked- "because they are all taken in one swallow". Doom and gloom

So, I constantly curb friends comments to try to remind them of the fight most people have- the fight of good health 
But in my heart I know, that attitude change, takes a lot of inner strength, discipline and determination over many years

So, can I suggest to members here- 

• work towards toning down talking about your woes
• ask questions of your friends to take interest in their lives and good times
• become a half full person, it's a great way to live
• try to restrict your therapy to the therapist/psych
• it's ok to feel down and reject the company of a friend, they'd likely rather chat when you are feeling better.

Thoughts?

TonyWK

[Guest_1055]

Hi Tony,

I like this topic a lot and agree with most of what you said. 

It reminds me of this... "whatever is lovely, whatever is excellent, whatever is praise worthy think upon these things"

I am working at this in my own life. Realising it can take me out of the doom and gloom. 

[white knight]

Hi 1055, 

Thankyou for replying.  These next link and the thread link might interest you.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=W3aFh7OJMNA

https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/staying-well/meditation-words-of-wisdom-it-helped-me-for-25-year...

TonyWK

[Guest_1055]

Thankyou

[Fiatlux]

Thank you for your post, but this... Once you become a positive "half full" person you never look back, no matter what life throws at you... 

Life has indeed thrown a heap at me. I have endured a lot. Why does life have to be soo hard?

I look at the positives... I have a roof over my head, an income and a family of sorts.

Being a positive thinking does not make you immune from stress, anxiety, depression and the list goes on...

I am a Survivor! 🙏

[white knight]

Hi Fiatlux thankyou for taking the time

Yes, a survivor. A simple walk around the block can sight a new flower bud, a friendly dog, clean air, tranquillity... so much can happen with a simple walk!

I have bipolar, dysthymia, depression and once had anxiety. DVT, arthritis etc, it all adds up to good days and bad days but I'm here replying to you that has had to endure so much. 

I must admit I'm a studier of people in my family and friends, some are very difficult to tolerate with their negativity. EG politics, I have progressively withdrawn from them, dont like people visiting and out of the blue "that premier of ours is hopeless..." when in fact I often believe he/she is doing a good job lol. What can you say if not for an arguement?

Yes, positive minds dont stop the mental challenges we get so routinely but if help us survive- your very words...  thankyou

TonyWK

[Guest_1584]

Yeah it is a very big thing and a rabbit hole l know l have to protect myself against at times. Just talking about something like this over on Ponders thread.

For me not really in a people sense, actually l try to put positive spins on situations or even a have a chuckle at some of the the ironical that just happen , with myself and anyone close to me if they're getting too gloomy and negative.

l also usually mostly skim and then out of topics that concern me a lot too such as the state of things , GW, things going on around the world , people and things like that or  just with someones situation. ln most cases l've found it really helps to us both to just not dwell or dig it to bits too much.

There was a stage l went through though when while there were such good things in my life , all l was thinking about was negatives. Thank the Gods it took awhile and a lot out of those close to me but with some nudging l realized and snapped out of it. l too find it doesn't help mush to over talk or think MH either and even better if l can find a chuckle at myself.

Still a work in progress.

rx