Good Morning Nippy, sometimes we fall into situations that we don't want to be in, it's certainly happened to me and then we have to try and find some way we can get the help we need and sometimes that's not easy.
When you think as though you are the root cause leads you to negative thoughts and this is where you need to realise that it may not necessarily be caused by you, but by something else.
If you put others before yourself, then you may miss out on important information about who you are as a person and stall the way you could improve yourself, and this is possible because I've been down there so many times but have come back up to see the light once again.
I'd like to hear about what happened with your sister, in your own time, but you need to set boundaries where you feel comfortable and when you need assistance.
The thought of having a bottle of wine after work is a coping mechanism, the way you want to feel relieved, to try and be relaxed, but if you aren't feeling the best then you will only build on your thoughts, that's the time to talk to someone.
I really hope to hear back from you.
Best wishes.
Geoff.
