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[SourceShield]

Greetings!

This post is about LIMITING-BELIEFS, or as me and my brother Matt now call them, Old Thought Thoughts - OTT.

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This post will most likely not appeal to many people, because I am writing about our beliefs that we have about life and ourselves, that we all have had for much of our life.

Our beliefs are personal, and yet oddly the 'same' as well.

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There is a school of thought that teaches us that when we identify the OTT i.e. I am unlovable.

Relate to the OTT, rather than from it.

We can then release the attachment to the OTT, as well as the aversion to the OTT.

For example -

A child is told that they are no good, useless and worthless, every other day.

-sadly, this is a story often told, by many.

As this child grows a set of OTT have been programmed into the mind-body of the now grown adult-child.

I am no good.

I am useless.

I am worthless.

etc etc etc

The adult-child now has an attachment to the OTT.

But also you would see an aversion to those OTT as well.

I am no good <- the attachment.

And, I hate that I am no good <- the aversion. The judgement for having the OTT in the first place, keeps us attached to the OTT.

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Not all beliefs are limiting.

All beliefs are fluid.

They are mutable - liable to change, as all things in existence are!

But...

How do we release the OTT?

Thats what we're most interested in!.

I am going to share a few things of how I am learning to release all of the OTT that once ruled my life, and would love to read yours as well!.

1) Refer to the OTT being in the past. If we keep on affirming the OTT in the present moment, it stays in the present moment. By writing and talking about the OTT being in the past, youre correcting the memory. REWIRE!

2) I AUGMENT positive memories. Whatever they are, whenever they happened. This is why I actively look for things to be thankful and grateful for. Appreciation, heals! And thats now science...if youre interested in the research about this, let me know!

3) I have learned to ask for help, and to RECEIVE it graciously, whenever it comes to me. And, it always does.

4) I SMILE and LAUGH more. Theres research for this too!

5) I have changed my eating habits. I EAT WELL now. I am now on the Guts and Psychology Syndrome foodplan GAPS. I used to be obese. No more.

6) I EXPRESS in healthy ways - dance, music, write..

7) I take time out to LOVE - my family, friends, my dog bundy, nature..

REMEMBERING to LOVE is a biggie!.

And, whatta 'bout you?...

[Kazzl]

Hi again - your last post posted as I was posting. Now I've read it - a very big hug to you my lovely. And well done on the way you're handling things, especially not writing yourself off with booze or otherwise.

I know 'I'm okay', with a side serve of pain. Hold on my friend. You are a treasure. And it will pass. Sometimes the very best thing to do is hug a dog.

Much love back to you

Kaz

[blondguy]

Hey Kaitoa

Kazzl has summed it very well with the girls, I agree with her that they would have jumped your bones if it was an option!

You have so much to offer here Kaitoa. Ive been sitting here smiling and admiring the peace you share with so many people on the forums.

Your strength is to be admired. I am learning from your posts Kaitoa

Mega Hugs & Heaps of Love for you

Paulxx

[SourceShield]

Hey Kaz -

You know what?

I think some of them would've too, and many have tried!.

And, there have even been a few very attractive 'girlfriends', that have actually challenged me into thinking...Could I Go There???.

But...NO!.

I like men...far too much.

I like the way men smell, feel, taste...I love men.

Do you know 'straight' guys, that just love women?

Big ones, little ones, black, white...I have many straight mates, that can appreciate all types of women.

Genuinely.

That's how I am with guys.

I just love men.

So, it makes sense that I'm gay!.

Be a shame, and a pain otherwise.

But enough about me!

How are you going Kaz?

You told me you like icecream...

What's your top 3 flavours?

And, youse other ice cream fans as well...

What ice cream flavours do you like the most?

Mine would be...

1) CoconutRough

2) MintChocChip

3) French Vanilla Hokey Pokey

***heads off to the freezer***

PeaceOut

Kaitoa

[SourceShield]

Nawwwww Paul, you're just a lovely sweetheart, aren't you?

For real!

MegaHugs 2 you beautiful man.

And, Megahugs to you too, Kaz.

I know you know, "I'm okay" with a side of pain. So, I appreciate your wisdom and thoughtfulness.

MuchLove

[Kazzl]

1. Chocolate with choc chips

2. Pistachio with choc chips

3. Vanilla with caramel bits and macadamia nuts. (WIth choc chips on top).

3. Magnums of any kind, especially almond.

Haven't had coconut rough. Ooooohhhhh, must try it. I loved coconut roughs when I was a kid. Probably still do.

xxx

[Guest_9809]

Hey Kaitoa. Sorry to hear that you received some bad news today. But so pleased that you did not let it 'bury' you in self pity or any other negative emotion.

You are always here for everyone else, and that shows by the responses from everyone here today.

I'm really pleased that this OTT stuff is working so well for you. And I think it is finally getting through to some of the rest of us as well.

Your show of strength is an inspiration to the rest of us. Thankyou again Kaitoa, essentially just for being who you are ... a great guy. And well ... your big sooky dog is also pretty great.

Much love to you Warrior Man.

Taurus

[SourceShield]

Aldi - Coconut Rough.

It's really good!.

Doesn't take a psychoanalyst to see a pattern there...Choc Chips Fiend!

Nice.

I've never had pistachio with choc chips.

Love pistachio in ice cream though.

And almonds too - Almond Magnum, is my fave of the magnums!.

I'm eating the last of the candy cane ice cream...sorry no choc chips...it's better today, because it was a bit too soft yesterday.

I like the ice cream to be firm, when I first put it in my mouth...here we go...why does my mind always go back to the gutter...

Did You Know?...

That the top 5 Ice Cream Consuming Countries In The World Are...

1) New Zealand

2) The U.S

3) Australia

4) Finland

5) Sweden

I'm not at all surprised...we eat ice cream like its going out of fashion in NZ.

It's cold for much of the year...but we still scoff ice cream.

No wonder the world thinks that Kiwis are mad!.

[SourceShield]

Thank You Taurus!.

The truth is...I'm the sook.

Bundy, is the most chillaxed dog ever.

I just like to make out that he's a boofhead, but that'll be me.

I feel good, at the moment...because I was able to write that I received bad news, without any self-loathing attached.

I was never good with telling people my stuff.

I always felt like a burden because I know that there are so many out here, that have had it much worse than me.

For real.

I come from a very proud Maori family.

We are known for our 'strength' - but I've come to see that much of that is 'public face', behind closed doors...like every family...we have a whole heap of weaknesses, and skeletons in the proverbial closet.

Humility, doesn't come easy to many of us.

And, it's also misunderstood by many that assume that to be humble is a weakness.

It isnt.

Doesn't mean to be a pushover either.

But, the humility that comes from self-acceptance takes courage.

It's gritty and raw.

I feel that when people share how it is for them...like you do...that's powerful.

Especially with ALL that we've all been through, and still going through.

Some of us live this life with mental health "issues", on a day to day basis.

Some days it's easy to just be.

Other days, it's a friggin nightmare, and I sleep all day, pretty much!.

Other days, are rather mundane and mediocre.

And, some days...are magnificent!.

In the past, I would've buried my disappointment, with receiving the bad news.

Thats my public face..."Don't let anyone see you cry man!"

And thats just an old self-limiting belief, right?

But, I knew that I had to reach out, and say - Yep, I got some bad news...but, I'm okay!.

That's all.

I'm grateful for your kindness TS.

I'm grateful for your generosity TS...thanks for jumping on the thread tonight and extending your care.

That means a lot to me.

MuchLove

Kaitoa&Bundy

[SourceShield]

Hey TS!

I did reply but I see the LagBeast has swallowed the post...for now!.

It'll be there tomoz, no doubt.

I wont write it all again...but essentially, I was just writing to thank you for being very kind, supportive and caring!.

MuchLove

Kaitoa

[SourceShield]

Howdy!

NPT - "All Is Well".

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But, when you live an often-times 'disorderly' life, as I do, how can ALL be well?

Easy.

You have to include ALL THAT in the ALL.

Some things about oneself are much easier to accept, about oneself, than other parts.

But, ALL PARTS are part of the ALL of oneself.

When we consistently reject any 'parts' of oneself, we will always fall into the pits of Apathy.

The true opposite of Love.

Apathy is the absence of Love.

I can still feel fear, and love.

I can still feel grief, and love.

But one cannot feel apathy, and love, all at the same time.

I mean that from a "brain scan", point of view as well.

One can feel both fear, and love, all at the same time.

I have felt like this!.

I have both feared and loved, all at the same time.

But apathy is different.

Apathy is the absolute denial, rejection, avoidance...of Love.

Apathy is the ultimate nemesis.

Because the act of apathy blocks us off from the greatest part of oneself.

Love - the ability to love.

Biochemically - we can see the brain in 'love'...and the "empathy-network" doing it's 'magic'.

We see oxytocin, among other 'things' flushing the body with it's 'good-vibes'.

Apathy cuts us off from the connection to this most special part of oneself.

The connection to love, of oneself, of another, of others, of life, of this very planet and universe we live in.

The ability to love, and to be loved.

But what if?

What if, you come from a dysfunctional upbringing?

What if, you've been diagnosed with a massive list of 'things' that 'make' your life feel disorderly at times?

What if, you're prone to major depressive episodes, and suffer with a physical disease?

What if?

What if "Love", is a loaded word?.

BUT what if, I can release my attachment to all OTT that tell me that I'm not worthy of love?.

What if I can be free of the attachment and aversion to all thoughts that no longer work for me?.

I know I can be.

I just include ALL of the 'stuff', in the big picture.

I know that I exist for a reason.

We all do.

I just believe that the reason, though unknown to us, is a really, really, really 'good' reason.

We can only 'see', a tiny spec of the Big Picture.

That's all our 'little' human brain can handle at the moment.

But, cognisance...awareness...brings us back to presence.

All IS well.

We just forget.

With all the 'stuff' going on.

Some of it's major 'stuff', don't get me wrong.

I just remember Love more often now.

Luv

Kaitoa