Dealing with anger

[Clea]

I wasn't sure where to post this question so added it here.

Along with depression and anxiety I suffer at times with feeling angry. My anger in itself can feel overwhelming. Usually it comes about when I feel wronged.

I'm wondering if this common amongst others who experience depression and/or anxiety?

Also I would love any tips / advice for managing or letting go of anger

Thanks

C

[blondguy]

Hello Clea

Thankyou for such a relevant thread topic....and posting with us too 🙂

I understand exactly where you are coming from as 'anger' especially as a response is a classic symptom of having a 'tired or exhausted' mind. This is very common as when we have difficulty concentrating or coping our anger levels can increase as a result for sure

Anxiety/depression can leave us with little patience and can make us react to even the smallest issue in our lives. Anxiety/depression has been with me for 35 years (under management) and can be a bad place to be in

• The earlier anxiety/depression is treated the better our recovery will be
• GP's have excellent training nowadays on mental health compared to even 20 years ago...
• The more frequent the counseling/GP visits....the less severe our symptoms will be...seriously
• It does take serious effort and determination to heal....yet its worth it...big time 🙂
• Making a double appointment with a GP is a bonus
• Avoiding any toxic people/environments/relationships is always a huge help towards recovery

The forums are a safe and non judgemental place for you to post Clea. There are many super kind people on the forums that can be here for you too 🙂

I really hope that you can post back when its convenient for you Clea

my kind thoughts

Paul

[Rabbit33]

I couldn't have said that any better! Great advice blondguy.
Perfect response and i agree with you 100%

You're definitely not alone Clea with the way you're feeling nor reacting.
Just remember though, you can't control what others do so try not to allow them to have control over your feelings. 🙂

[Lee lee 73]

Hi Clea,

You're definitely not alone. I feel angry most of the time. I'm told it's a symptom of depression, built up inner tension - but It scares me. It's the opposite of who I am. Deep breathing helps me to control it. Breathe in from right down your gut and let it out. Do this as many times as you need to . I'm only just starting to realise it works...

Be kind to yourself Clea.

Lee

[smallwolf]

Hi Clea,

I am with Lee on this one, except that for me it is in the past tense. (I also have haemochromatosis, which has mood swings and irritability as symptoms.) That feeling of being overwhelmed, so the next thing that someone says to you throws you over the edge and you snap. That is how it was for me.

So if your anger is a side effect of depression and anxiety, then treating these can help you manage your anger.

And if deep breathing does not work for you, try a guided meditation. But each thing you try needs to be given a chance. And it might not work first time. But with each time you do it you might notice a change. Check out the threads on grounding and mindfulness as well for other ideas.

Tim