Be kind to yourself

[Lookingforpeace]

Hi everyone

I like to think I am kind to others, and judging by the posts on these forums I know you are all kind people too.

But often I forget to be kind to myself.

I didn't go to work today because I'm sick and feel guilty that I'm not at work. Feel bored. Feel lazy.

But you know what? Sometimes it's ok to sit in your robe all day. Sometimes it's ok to nap, wake up, then nap again! Sometimes it's ok to watch daytime TV.

 I hope you are all kind to yourselves today 🙂

[V17]

Thanks for the warm welcome Mrs Drools.
To be honest, I prefer V but when I went to change my display name I couldn't find how. I'll just sign off on V - that's fine. Thanks for asking. It is nice to be seen.
No, I am not okay. I am waiting for my initial post to get the green light from the modulators. Perhaps I came across as an angry ant? I'm quite the passionate soul. I'm unsure what the go is. Would I receive word if that is the case?
I'll go back and re-read the compliance side of things in any case and maybe I have to start again. I don't want to stuff up this thread with my babble.

V.

[blondguy]

Hey Judahlion

Posting can be difficult sometimes as per the rules and regs V. I understand the frustration when you are trying to speak your mind. I hope you feel welcome 🙂

I responded to you on your other post from Mrs Dools

My Best

Paul

[Doolhof]

Hi V,

You are more than welcome to keep posting here. I am not sure why your original post has been delayed. I know the moderators do check the posts, sometimes the forum is very busy so that could be the delay.

Have you happened to see your original post yet? I sometimes get myself a little confused on this forum as I flit from thread to thread.

Maybe you could try to start another post? I would like to be able to explain to you how you can change your display name, but understanding ways of doing things on the computer is just not me!

Hopefully someone else will respond to this thread and will be able to help you. Paul might now, I will ask him.

Sometimes there are glitches in the system, hopefully you will have your own thread recognised soon.

Welcome once more to the community here at Beyond Blue on this forum.

Cheers again from Mrs. Dools

[Doolhof]

Hi Paul,

Hope you are travelling okay.

If you see this message, can you please explain to V (Judhalion) how it is possible to change our user names here. I have no idea at all how to do that. I have to ask Christopher Banks to help me or my husband!

Thanks, cheers to you from me.

[Doolhof]

BEING KIND TO MYSELF

Some days I do this well, others days I'm not so good at it.

This morning I went off to Church and really listened to what was being said. I felt comforted and encouraged. For others I know you find your sense and peace in different ways, we all need to find what works for us.

Today I'm going to try and give my soul some peace.

Later on I am going to stew some apples, make some lemon butter and enjoy the aromas from the kitchen. I have lit the wood fire so the house heats up and will feel nice and cosy.

In the afternoon I may have a snooze in front of the T.V. or sit there and relax with my crochet.

I'm going to try to take it easy on myself today. Strange how self care does not come naturally to us all.

Cheers all from Mrs. Dools

[JPH68]

I have been running on empty for too long but thankfully reading comments here and elsewhere, I realise it is not selfish to spend time on me - it is actually essential for my survival. I recently started swimming again - fortunate to have access to indoor heated pool. I find doing the laps up and down soothing (except for getting puffed!), my mind can zone out or sometimes I do a bit of problem-solving. Have also started taking time out for more walks on the beach and devoting time at sunrise to prepare for the day ahead & at sunset to reflect on what went well & not-so-well and let go of the busy-ness of the day so that I may sleep a little better. Thank you for listening.

[Clementinee]

Hi Everyone,

It was interesting to read all the replies and I am new to the forums. What do you do, when you do the things needed for self hep, like going to gym or treating yourself to food or saying no to work so that you can relax?

What do you do for those days where it is just too hard to feel ok? or those stretch of days where your "self help" of just going to work and coming home to do nothing just ends up you procrastinating on everything because you can't gather the energy for anything? (while other days you are as positive as can be?)

Thanks x

[Lost4eva]

For me, there are some days when it is all just too hard. I cannot get motivated. But I accept that - because tomorrow will be a better day. When I am having one of those days, I make my life as easy as it can be and I try to have a few people around me - who are accepting that I'm just not in the mood. Just having their presence in the same room as me can make a difference. I try not to feel guilty about it - it is the way it is. I always try to focus on tomorrow being a new day.

[Suet suet]

Thank you for the post. It has really brightened my day!

Don’t know why we are often so kind to others but forget that we need to be kind to ourselves! It is so simple but we often forget!

thanks for sharing and reminding us!

[Proud_Dad]

I struggle with being to hard on myself as well, especially when I have done something wrong. Every time I do something wrong I always wish I could have a "do over" and then I ruminate on it. My wife asked me the other day, "How would you treat someone else who had done the same thing?" ...honestly, I be kind and try to help them and then I wouldn't give it a second thought. She said, "Treat yourself the same way". I also heard someone say, "Treat yourself like you would treat one of your children". It's taking a lot of work, but I found this helpful to begin changing my mindset about how I treat and forgive myself.