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Gay married going crazy

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Hi All

Im 61 married for 32 years and I know I am gay. I love my adoring wife and children but I cannot continue to deceive them. I was in love when I got married and have been very happy up until the last few years when I cant stop thinking about men and being free to experiment. I feel like my mind is a constant battle field of my thoughts. I dont think I can continue this lie much longer. I need to tell my family the truth. However I know in unloading my burden I tranfer it to them and my wife in particular. How can I tell my wife when I know it will destroy her life! Thank you for listening 

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Hey cycleman, 
Thank you for sharing your story with us and welcome to the forums! This is an amazing community to open up to, and we’re sure you’ll hear from some of the community members once they spot your post.  

We firstly would like to thank you for having such bravery to share your story, we know it's not easy sharing such pesonal experiences but by talking about it we believe it can help to unburden yourself and feel like you're not alone.

We also think that QLife would be an awesome organisation to talk to. They offer Australia-wide anonymous, LGBTQI+ peer support and referral for people wanting to talk about a range of issues including sexuality, identity, gender, bodies, feelings or relationships. QLife services are free and include both telephone and webchat support, delivered by trained LGBTQI+ community members across the country. You can call them on 1800 184 527 or check out their webchat
You can also give us a call anytime on 1300 22 4636 if you feel like talking to our trained counsellors about anything that’s going on for you through this journey. We are here for you, and so is this community of people who may relate to some of what you’re going through, and can share advice, understanding, hope and support.  
Thank you again for your courage and for posting in such an articulate way. We know that it can be really difficult to take that step and ask for some help, but you never know who might read your post and feel less alone in their own experience. 

Kind Regards,

Sophie M

Thank you for the information provided. I will certainly call them 

Community Member

I hear ya.