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Worried for my daughter

Perthyte
Community Member
My daughter has been on a self destructive path for some time, having previously had a relationship with an addicted, controlling partner which she has since ended and her becoming a prostitute (now for 2 years). This has hurt me so much as this is not what i want for my child - she flaunts the money on labels and cosmetic surgery. She is brainwashed to believe it's the best thing she's ever done as she has friends (other prostitutes) and she feels empowered. I can see she has blinkers on and can't see what's really happening. What can i do to make her see what she cannot see?
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GoodWitch
Community Member

Hi Perthyte

You say your daughter had a previous relationship with a controlling addict, so good on her for having the strength to end it. I see that as a very positive move on her part. She seems like a smart woman. You didn't say whether she is or was also addicted to substances, so I'm hoping that means she's not. Is she? Because if the prostitution is what she does to feed an addiction, the root of the problem is the addiction, and that's what she needs help with, not her job.

If she's not on drugs, she is healthy and supporting herself, that's great. As for how she's supporting herself you may not like it, but if she says she feels empowered by what she is doing, maybe she does..? You said she feels it's the 'best thing she's ever done', and those are strong words. Do you think this is a lie, or does she mean it? Does she seem truly happy? Is she taking care of herself in a way that means she's unlikely to fall into another controlling relationship? Does she know her own worth and mind? Is she being safe? If the answers are all yes, these are the positives you could focus on. Because when it comes down to it, if she wants to do this work you can't really stop her (I'm presuming she's an adult).

I know it clearly makes you upset and uncomfortable, so this might not be what you wanted to hear. But if you want to maintain a relationship with your daughter you may need to find ways to accept the things about her you don't like. There's a chance if you push her to feel ashamed of what she's choosing to do she might end up pushing you away altogether.

Just another perspective to think about

Best

GW