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Sexual Health and the Idea of Never Having a Partner

Azzdog
Community Member

Hi everyone, I'm not sure how to put this but hopefully it will make sense.

I am a 24 year old male who currently is in therapy and sees a psychologist regularly. I have OCD, anxiety, depression, and autism, and when you put those all together, it becomes understandable why socialising is a major problem for me. One major cause of my current situation is the fact that I have never hd a girlfriend or had sex. Because we live in the digital age, it is almost impossible to avoid the fact that a lot of people are in relationships and that modern society is obsessed with the concept of sex. You would almost have to live on a deserted island in order to completely avoid all the triggers associated with it.

My cause of concern is that I have no one that I can relate to on this and that I feel like I struggle to articulate how bad it is for my mental health. My psychologist says that I am well in the normal distribution for young men but that doesn't really make me feel any better. Because I am shy, introverted, and have a lot of hobbies and interests that are not in line with contemporary society, I genuinely feel like I will never have a girlfriend, never have sex, and die alone. This fact alone has meant in the past 6 months, I have had 5 separate stints in a psychiatric ward due to concerns of my own safety. I was wondering if there are any other young men out there who feel the same way and are currently in the same boat, and if there are any young mens health groups around? I feel the latter would be important for me and reassure me that I am not the only one who feels this way.

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Azzdog
Community Member
we take relationships for granted in this society, it won't happen to me at all. i want to die because i have had enough of women treating me like crap

james1
Community Champion
Community Champion

Hello Aaron,

That's a shame about not receiving any replies yet for the band. It can be very hard to start something new. Have you seen any other ads on gumtree or elsewhere for people wanting to join a band?

Hi Azzdog,

We are sorry that you are feeling like you want to die. Please know we are concerned about your well-being and would like to support you through this dark time.

We’d urge you to reach out to the Suicide Call Back Service 1300 659 467 or Lifeline 13 11 14, to talk these feelings through.

Keep checking back in to let us know how you are going when you feel up to it. 

Azzdog
Community Member

Hey,

I have had a bad day. I hate the feeling of being rejected. You'd think I'd be used to it by now.

I am going to try and start some more things tomorrow. I am thinking of what you said James and try to join a group rather than start one. Gumtree have plenty of ads of people wanting a guitarist so I'll check out some tomorrow and see what I find.

This is also my final week at Orygen and I am really not coping about it.

Azzdog
Community Member

I seriously want to die. What is so wrong about me that women despise? Women are so picky and I hate them all. I can’t tolerate this  anymore.

Women hate me and I hate them. I’m completely dead on the inside and I should be tried for crimes against humanity for having a face like the one I do. Someone just kill me now.

Azzdog
Community Member
I hate this piece of meat I'm trapped in. I am an ugly, hideously ugly, pathetic personality who is trapped in an ugly sack of meat. I want to die. I hate being a human being.

smallwolf
Community Champion
Community Champion

Azzdog,

We are still here for you. Play some music to let out your frustrations? I have an appointment this morning to get to, but please reach out to someone such as life line (13 11 44). This time will pass, and then we will chat. In the meantime, we sit in the silence together.

Tim

james1
Community Champion
Community Champion

Hi Aaron,

I'm sorry to hear you feel really bad about yourself. You sound incredibly lonely and isolated. I hope you can accept our company as well. We're here regardless, if you want to talk.

James

Azzdog
Community Member
I still feel very bad. I feel very isolated and rejected.

james1
Community Champion
Community Champion

Hey Aaron,

I'm sad to hear that. When I've felt isolated, I've either tried calling a friend I trust or just talking to strangers about their day. For me, even if I'm not talking about my struggles, hearing another voice really helps. Does it help you to talk about non-mental health things too?

James