Pregnant at 41

[Saran]

Hi everyone 

A little background, happily married 5 years (10 together) have two beautiful children aged 4 and 7.

Recently found out we are pregnant, VERY unexpected, we are 12 weeks -had the NIPT test and results are good. 

I am so devastated to be pregnant again. I was hoping by now I’d come around to it - we both do not want any more children and explored termination however I’ve struggled with the idea as worried about guilt and regret. 

I adore my current children but have found being a mum hard, both did not sleep well for a long time and caused me a lot of distress. We have our life back on track and now this…… I’m hoping to find joy but all I see is hard work and struggles ahead 😢

[Saran]

Thank you for this.

I have discussed in full with my mother (abroad) and close friend. I’m in that disconnected stage though. 

[quirkywords]

Saran

This is such an important decision and as Croix wrote their maybe be regrets on what ever option you  choose.

the rising has mentioned demanding one’s partner to step . Maybe I have chosen partners who did not respond well to being told to step up . I think that my experience of mother hood with 3 children and mental health issues would have been easier if my ex had been really supportive. 
My children now have children and my boys are very involved dads and supportive partners. 

I realise there are many pressures to make a decision one . 

You are so open and honest . You are in my thoughts. 

My have children and my boys are the fathers their father was not.