Partner has been lying
We had quite a good conversation and she came out with all the answers I needed to know. They had met up once back in April (I checked my msgs from back then between partner and I and he had a diff story) she also said that they were going to meet up again on a date a sea later and it worked out to be the same date as i miscarried.
We had a good/great sex life but during covid our let our hair down nights became an everyday thing for him as i am working i knew but didn't know how bad it got. After confronting him with all the facts he then somehow made it my issue as i didn't have time for him (he was out every night) 😏
He then blamed her saying she was all over him and what was he spos to do 🤔
I told him I needed my space and took off my engagement ring he then started to accuse me of cheating (I am loyal to a fault) and started crying saying he would kill himself, that i dont care about his feelings and it meant nothing.. ao last night I thought i would let my hair down a bit and as we were becoming touchy with each other I couldn't get what happened out of my head, at the start he was cool and gave me my space to breath but this morning he has woken saying last night was a waste of time.
I love him we have been through so much together but I dont trust him. He doesn't understand how hurt I am considering when we met he knew that cheating was a big "NO" for me and he agreed
He is constantly looking over my shoulder if I am on my phone and becomes very over the top when he doesn't get the answers that he wants me to say and it makes me nervous.
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I'm so glad you got to the bottom of things but I'm not glad for the betrayal and hurt you must feel. It's a massive shock to the system finding out a partner has been cheating in the relationship and he had plans to continue by the sounds of things; " they were going to meet up again on a date".
Your suspicions were right just like mine were when I felt that my partner was cheating on me.
I guess the next qtn is what's your next step? Are you willing to work through all this with your partner, get him help and continue the relationship, or go your separate ways?
If he's willing to get help from a professional like a psychologist I think that would be a really good step. I feel he owes this to you.
My ex partner didn't get any help and continues to be a womanizer, even now that he's married with kids.
They need to be held accountable.
He wants my answers to his questions to be black and white and I can't answer them yet, because I don't know if I will be able to get over the betrayal. It's hard knowing his lips, hands ect. Have touched someone else when it shouldn't have and it makes me feel sick to the stomach .