Hi Sherman
There are of course two sides to every story. In this case it is a classic case of just that.
Dealing with your ex with court issues there will be differences and each person, you and your current partner need to respect the others views. This is all good in theory, not so easy in practice to disagree and be supportive at the same time.
An ultimatum doesn't help matter. Tell a man to leave the house and he likely will. You also are responsible for what you do and say in an argument. Throw in the challenging situation of a blended family with firey topics like discipline and you have a separation on your hands.
This is clearly a case for relationship counselling because you both need help to get through the minefield of issues confronting you both. Included in that is how he can control his temper and be less aggressive. Also for you to limit your discussion about court issues, about a man (your ex) that is perhaps smothering your partner with discussion that overloads his mind.
So while I sympathise with you in your current situation you both need to self reflect on your own actions and words, ultimatums and aggression.
It isn't easy having a blended family with differences either. In fact it is likely quadruple the stress of getting it "right".
Good luck.
Tony WK
