Hi RusD,
thank you for posting here.
when I first met my husband, we got engaged 3 months later. He is from O/S and I’m local. Mine was arranged marrriage so long story short, I got to know him for a short time, and flew to his country for the official legal marriage at the registry in May. In the same year, his father passed away and then my mum passed away. It is customary for our religion to mourn for 1 year so that means no weddings, or celebrations of any kind. So we waited for a year. Ten once the mourning period finished, I flew back to his country and got married the traditional way. I returned back to Australia and then he followed 6 months later so in total 1.5 years of living apart.
it was hard and as I was still getting to know him, I thought I was the ultimate trophy. 9 years later, it was all fake. Now I know my husband better. He is a narcissistic prick. The marriage is based on a lie and is all fake. He gave me a false future. I don’t have any personal growth in those 9 years. I worked and sacrificed my uni time and worked to save money for a house, car and now we have all those things. But all in this empty of house without any love or emotional support, sexual intimacy, ie sex anorexia. Now I know better.
I hope that the person whom you are waiting for is worth all your efforts and sacrifice.
regards,
denham.
