Hi Michelle. Asking how long it takes to accept/get over marriage breakdown, death of a spouse/child/parent. Each person who has this happen has their own way of dealing with the grief process. Some people wear their hearts on their sleeves, some toss their heads back and just get on with their lives. What sort of person do you think you might be? Are you: a); hopeful that you might reconcile, or b); oh, well, such is life. Only you know how you feel, what you want. You had expectations, you were denied these when your hubby decided to reconnect with his lost youth. I do know you will have moments when you regret everything. You may even self blame, victims do this often to justify why things happen that they didn't anticipate or couldn't prevent. You will have moments when you'll weaken and want him back at any cost. He'll arrive, possibly swearing undying love etc, you'll believe him because you want to, then question everything that's happened. These are what I refer to as 'withdrawal' symptoms. Normal, because your life has changed. These symptoms will gradually recede, but how long, again, depends on you and your emotional strength. There is no 'one answer fits all', everyone is different.
Lynda
