I dont Know what should i do

[loner_311095]

I have a 13-month-old baby. I feel like my husband lost interest in me. Before i got pregnant i found he had cheated on me (Just had phone and video conversations with other girls). Then when i caught him he told me, he not gonna do it again and would make an effort in our relationship. Then i fell pregnant and since i got pregnant and still now we haven't had any sex last 2.5 years. i had vaginal delivery so i thought that's why he is giving me some time to heal my baby is almost 14 months now but he doesn't seem any interest in me and sex. I am very introverted so indirectly i asked him but he didn't talk with me this elaborately.

I am a working mom. Sometimes i feel like i need someone who also loves me and pampers me but i don't want that as a charity, i want someone who feels for me.

I dont have any close friends either whom can i share my feelings. Last few months i am feeling so depressed and tired of this.

[quirkywords]

Hi loner311095

Itbis sad that your husband feels like he has lost interest. Apart from intimacy does he talk and listen to you, is he interested in his child, does he play with him. 

I can feel your loneliness . Is there something you like doing that gives you joy. 
take care 

[Sophie_M]

Hi loner_311095,   

Thank you for sharing this here. We’re sorry to hear what you’re going through and we welcome you to the forums. Thank you for having the bravery to share what's been going on for you and we hope our community is able to provide you with some helpful advice. 

It sounds like a difficult situation you are dealing with, sometimes even in a relationship we can feel alone. In a healthy relationship, communication and respect are important, so it might be worth having a look at the 1800Respect pages on healthy relationships. It sounds like it could be useful to have a chat with one of the lovely people at 1800Respect to discuss how things have been going with your husband. They're on 1800 737 732, or you can reach them on online chat.  You could also speak to Relationships Australia on 1300 364 277. They also have some great advice on their pages, such as this one on communication in relationships which could be helpful if you decide to speak to your husband about this issue.

It sounds like it's having an impact on how you're feeling day to day, so please know that there’s always someone here for you to talk it through with. The Beyond Blue counsellors are available 24/7 on 1300 22 4636 or online, here. It's important to be kind to yourself especially on top of caring for a child.  

Thank you again for your courage and strength in sharing your story here, feel free to update your thread with how you are feeling anytime.

Kind regards,  

Sophie M