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Husband refuses treatment

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My husband is 38 years old. I am 32 and
we have a 19 year old daughter (My step
daughter) and 3 more girls 5, 3 and 2. We
have been married for 8 years and he is my
world. I adore him. He has suffered server
depression for nearly 3 years now and he is
declining even further at an alarming rate.
I do all I can to ease his pain, stress and
troubles but I feel like a complete failure.
He refuses to see a doctor to seek help.
Tells me he will get over it. He won't even
consider treatment of any kind. I finally got
him to a doctor after 2 years but he was put
on 2 different anti depressants that didn't
help and now refuses to ever try again. Al13
ofour little girls have tourettes and ADHD.
My husband can't handle noise with his
illness so all my energy is trying to keep 3
young kids who can't sit still, scream, yell,
all with mental illness as quite as possible
while also trying to give them structure and
do all the work, and also do what I can to
help hubby. At times He is angry and mean,
so so heart crushing mean (we never used
to fight).
And although it deflates me I try and
remember its not him, its the illness. While
also letting him know it's not ok. He is suicidal
But tells me he always stops and wouldn't do it
because of our kids, but I believe that less ans less
Now and am on constant suicide watch

I'm exhausted, I'm tried and im out of
answers and ideas to get him through.
I have even tried different crystals or
natural therapy even though I'm not a
believer in it because I'm desperate. I will
keep trying until the end of my days until he
is better but I'm silently starting to suffer
too but just suck it up because my whole family need me.

Can anyone offer advice. At this point it would be easier to
Cure world hunger than get him to accept help
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Hello Pintsa

Welcome to the forums and thankyou for having the courage to post from the heart too

I understand what you have posted about your husband as I have also had reducing mental illness for a long time yet not seeking help may make his symptoms worse..unfortunately

There is only so much you can do as a partner re your husbands mental health Pintsa.....and you are doing everything you possibly can and good on you!

Can I ask what your husband has been diagnosed with? (and when?)...Just so we can provide better support..

The forums are a safe and non judgemental place for you to post

I do hope you can post back when convenient as there are many gentle people that can be here for you 🙂

my kind thoughts