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Hurting from the unknown

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Hi everyone,

My name is Ben and this is my first post. I'm looking for some advice/support.

I had met someone a couple of years back and we have been staying in contact via Skype. I'm not quite sure how I'd label our relationship but I have strong feelings for her but unfortunately our distance makes it hard for anything to develop at the moment. Therefore I use exercise and working towards buying my first house as a way to keep my mind focused and to not delve into living in a fantasy world. A few weeks ago I lost complete contact with her and not sure if she has deleted me or there is a technical issue with Skype (as I have read that this has happened before) I have tried to get in contact with her but to no avail. I don't want to come across as needy or being a nuisance but the unknown thoughts are hurting me deeply as I am so confused and scared I may never have contact with her again.

Just for some background on me I have been diagnosed with an anxiety disorder and panic a lot when things are not working. At the moment I don't feel like doing anything other then crawling up and laying in bed or turning to alcohol to help me be happy and not worry so much. I hope this isn't stupid but I do care for this person very much and it feels like this situation has taken over my life.

Thanks for taking the time to read this.


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Hi Ben

Agree with Paul. Don't apologise for not logging in. I have a week where I don't get to log on everyday and another where I can jump on more frequently.

After the day I posted, later that night my partner came over and was his usual self. He has been away for couple weeks to Melbourne and I told him to go to Vietnam as he was pondering on it. Told him be a good break from the chaos at home so hopefully it has helped. Am taking it day by day and have my up days and down days.

I hope you are doing fine.