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Help Needed - Boyfriend with Depression

ChronicLearner
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Hi All,

I need some advice. I have been with my boyfriend for 4 years and we have just moved into a new place. We have a puppy and a cat together and have been mostly happy for the 4 years with a few ups and downs as all relationships have.

My partner has suffered from depression for the last 10 years and it hasnt been the most well managed either. He recently just told me he had been diagnosed with biploar as well.

In the last 6 months, my partner has changed friendship groups and I have noticed more of a change in him such as, prioritising them, doing drugs often and going away on boys weekends.

He told me out of the blue this week he wasn’t sure what he wanted anymore, as in our lives together but he still loves me, he just wants to make sure he knows 100% sure he wants our life. I was completely shocked as this was so out of the blue.

i feel like I am in limbo at the moment, do I wait for him to know he wants us 100% or do I leave assuming he doesn’t want us. I’m so lost and upset with what to do.

Any advice or extra information needed, please let me know

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I'm hoping not touching anything for 3 weeks will be helping! One of our friends that lives over there is with them, and hes a great influence has said they will not be touching anything in 3 weeks!

And yeah I do, but I don't know how much registers with him to be honest.

Oh yeah thats great 3 wks without soinds like a boom.

Very happy as you must be too k owing that. That bloke sounds like hes a leader so that'll be good him around him

Yeah hes probs in such a gaze but he'd know with luck

You're good standing by him, maybe after this trip he may cone to his senses aye