Help! Everything is crashing down around me after baby
Hi Zoe, firstly congratulations on your baby, and on having such a big and lovely family!
Zoe, you are not crazy, nor have you lost your mind. You are stressed and anxious. And that is quite normal for new mums, especially when you have so many little folk to care for. It is also common for new mums to get depressed - post natal depression. Many, many women experience the anxiety or depression that can follow childbirth.
So there's no reason to hide how you're feeling and the sooner you talk with your doctor the better. Also have a look around on the main website, there's some good information there. And perhaps search the web for support services for new mothers, there are a number available, some with helplines that you can call to get support. If things get too overwhelming too, you can call our helpline on 1300 22 4636.
As far as the everyday things go, like housework and such, the best advice I got when I had my kids was to accept a lower standard. Don't bust yourself trying to maintain a perfect house, and rest whenever you can. Your baby doesn't know if the bed's made, and kids don't care. You baby just wants you. And your other kids want a happy, rested, healthy mum. And anyone who expects to walk into a beautiful clean and tidy house when there's a new baby around has never had a baby themselves.
Another bit of advice I was given was to accept any help offered. We try so hard to be seen to cope that we often turn down offers from friends and family. Let them help - let them do some washing for you, bring you some meals, take the older kids out for a while, clean the bathroom, whatever. Let them.
Zoe hun, if you love your kids, and you give them time and attention and look after yourself too then you are a great mum in my view. See you doc about the anxiety, don't worry about the house etc, and enjoy your time with your little ones, they grow up really really quickly!
Very best to you