It started on Saturday with me taking care of my
partner cause he was sick and yet again cancelling the first pair of his
friends that I was ever going to meet. We have been talking to each other since
Jan'19 and started dating in June'19. Because he had gastro, Sunday morning i
had some gut instinct that told me he had eaten crap and was lying to me, so
went to check his uber eats. Then came across snapchat which he claimed he
didnt know to use, we would always do funny ones on my phone. So i thought Id surprise
him and add me on his chat and send him funny pics. But boy when I opened the
snap chat i saw that there were a trail of messages and photos sent to his ex
as recent as Jan 3rd (Now you have to know it is very uncharacteristic and
against my own principle to snoop through someone's phone) The messages were
not innocent at all, he was calling her a dirty bitch, both were claiming to
have feelings for each other and the kick in the gut was the day before I left
to Vanuatu i told him that i might be pregnant as I was late. After consoling
me that we would deal with it together and that I should take care of myself
and enjoy my holiday etc, the same day he sends her messages of wanting to
spoon her. Now he had told me that he had broken up with this girl in Sept'18
and the last time he met was Jan'19.
He was leading his ex on, she didnt know I existed, so I thought I should tell
her that he has been lying and cheating to both of us. But when I did, she
ended up covering up a fair bit for him. Later when we were in the car, she
called up and said that they only broke up in August and the last they met was
in September during which time he made her meet his granny. You see I had met
his granny in October, so for his granny to meet 2 girls within a span of 1.5months
- just not done! wrong!
This is also when i realised that when we had started
seeing each other back in June, he was still dating his ex, and was probably
readying me as a back up. When in september we decided to be exclusive, he had
made me uninstall all my dating apps, claiming to have done the same. except i
later found out that he had still been flirting with other women until 2nd week
of october. he reached out to his ex end of october.
Dug even deeper, found out that his friends had set
him up with another woman who he dated between June to July, so essentially he
was involved with 3 of us.
