We can also choose to be kind and compassionate in this life. As someone who exercises regularly, I am all for the benefits it provides, but I would hate if my partner ever commented on my exercise regime or put that expectation on me. I do it for myself. I also understand that exercise is not the most important thing in the world, it’s a fairly shallow superficial pursuit to some extent. You are a 25 year old guy so I don’t blame you for feeling this way, but having a child requires a lot of support and emotional readiness. you have also obviously only been with your partner for a relatively short time, and it seems like more time before such a big commitment would have been good. Although that doesn’t help you now, it’s perhaps a lesson that you can take out of it for future.
Regarding the embellishment, my experience has been that people see situations through their own lens when upset, which can distort things. My partner has accused me of embellishing things in the past, whereas I contend that he has a history of minimizing things. In reality, when that happens, the situation has obviously upset me more than him and so I remember it as bigger.
My intention is not to beat you up, but you came across as a bit hard-nosed towards your partner given her circumstances. It seems like you have made up your mind and so I think separating is probably for the best, but I just hope that you learn and grow from this experience also.
