Friendzle,
is he looking for fun or a lifelong partner? For a relationship to work you need to be able to spend time together and time doing your own thing, but not at one persons expense. Isn't your happiness imprtant to him and you? Are you happy when he comes over and plays on his phone, messaging other girls? Looks like his idea of having fun does not include you. Is that a partnership? How would he feel if you befriended a group of guys and went out with Them? He says it will take time for things to get better and he's right but I don't see any effort on his part to try and make it happen. He's out partying and drinking, with other girls, while you sit st home miserable. You taken on the responsibility of buying a house, he doesn't seem to understand what responsibility is as he certainly doesn't respect the sacrifices that come with it. He says you're the one he wants to be with, ask him why. He says you're the one he wants to do things with but he's doing everything with these other girls because you're not fun. What exactly does he like doing with you? His actions do not match his words.
im really sorry but he sounds like a jerk. I have a thread called "lonely hearts club. Do you miss the person or the relationship". He's cheated on you before, how many drinks does he need (or the girls) before that line is crossed again? You don't live together, probably a good thing, but does he come home to you after partying?
ive been with someone who used to go out Saturday nights with his friend and never invited me to come. He may not have cheated but when the shit hit the fan and I questioned that he admitted he wanted to keep his options open.
sorry to be so blunt but it's a touchy subject for me because of personal experience.
Cmf
