Hi Jellybean2005,
I am sorry you are experiencing a hard time with your daughter. I used to have teenage angst when i was her age, I regret it a lot now but in the time I don't know what got into me - frustration, stress of finishing school, hormones ....probably, but it was mostly directed to my dad when he would disrupt me studying or be intrusive (this was because of deeper issues I realised later), I grew out of it but now realise i was deep down resentful of my dad and mum splitting up and how my dad treated my mum etc. Maybe there is something your daughter is keeping inside that is making her stressed? Is she receptive to you when you want to talk about it? I think that is necessary, if not with you, maybe with someone else she trusts?
It is pretty bad she left without no warning, that is worrying for a mother. That should not go unpunished. I would see if her school as a counsellor or someone she would be willing to talk to about her emotions and the stresses of being a teenager and finishing high school.
It is hard for you now but hopefully she will grow out of it and come to regret it - just be a parent and be supportive of her - ride this wave and know that she does love you even if she acts out.
I hope things improve,
Jaz xx
