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Introduction - Hello Everyone

Guest_498
Community Member

Hi all,

I'm new to this forum. I'd like to introduce myself. I'm 40 years of age, female. My interests include music (any genre), reading a great novel, watching comedy, Restuaranting, and learning new things. I suffer from depression and anxiety. Depression feels very lonely for me. I'd like to reach out for some support. Thank you.

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ecomama
Valued Contributor
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HI Sleepy

Love your interior design directions, it will all be SO PRETTY!

You have Netflix don't you?

I'm fortunate one son pays for Netflix for all of us. Another pays for Spotify and so on.

The Home Makeover show with Shea and Syd is really cool, I don't like everything they do but there are so many tips and tricks they use to style a room.
Really interesting.

Well it might sound ridiculous to you all but it's "a thing" not just for me but for Alexa too.... looks like I have a deadline for sprucing the Dining Room AND the lounge room AND the Balcony now... I was anticipating this might happen... looks like Alexa's new beau MIGHT be coming for part of Christmas Day now lol... (I hoed into the balcony this afternoon and USED MY NEW SHELVING in the storage area downstairs for the very first time lol!)....

I think I'll be awake THE ENTIRE night of Christmas Eve just fixing things up omg... a nice pressure to have but omg omg omg omg. Lol!

He sounds so sweet.
Alexa was FULL of news tonight about him.
I'll update more tomorrow night on my thread. She only just left here at midnight ugh.

Cop this... he's buying his mum another car for a present... it's a $30k car this time.

He's very unassuming and extremely humble... but omg I would be freaking out WHOMEVER new friend of Alexa's was coming over.

I don't have a magic wand lol. I'll do my best with JOY... if it becomes to much of a chore or stressful, then I'm stopping.

Love EM

ecomama
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Hi Blubes

Funny you called Tayla Tay Tay, I was going to do that too lol.

Hi Tay Tay!

Sweet name.

I LOVED Taylor Dane's music a while back - still do!
"I'll be your shelter" is one of my favourites.
that's my Music inspo for you all tonight.

We'll be here for you Bluberry.

Talk tomoz bbg!
Ms Law Degree.

Lots of love EM

Guest_1643
Blue Voices Member
Blue Voices Member

Hey EM

So he might come? Might sounds better than not... that's sweet if he can come and meet the family

but can understand the deadline now to get all ready ! Wow he can afford to buy cars ... not bad for a young man! Really has established himself and is generous. He'll probably be lovely company at the lunch - assume working for Disney he'll have some nice stories but I guess if he's humble he may not like to mention it. I do like that quality though, letting his actions speak louder than his words. Sounds like a kind man with a lot going for him.

I have Netflix which I use from my brother! And Stan from a friend! I alternate between them and occasionally SBS Iview and of course ABC Iview also!! I love Schitts Creek too - omigosh. I love the girl who works at the Inn - I can't remember her name. With the long black hair... I think her name is Emily in real life but the character's name escapes me. She's kind of dry and sarcastic. So pretty and cool, that actress.

How is bf? Hope ur feeling good and get some rest tonight. Sounds like a lot going on and amazing and tiring times. xx much love

hey Blubs apologies I got confused which thread I was writing on!
Yes I am so happy to see these changes in my apartment - uve got such a lovely eye and it really reflects what I hoped to create! Amazing!

I can see what you mean about "clean lines" - such a sleek look.
I was really drawn to charchol at first but was worried it'd get too depressing but totally not with the silver and grey - and some white as well. The white vases are really popping. It is cool to come home to a place that has a bright feel.
I've found some gorgeous Georg Jensen - great idea. I have a fat candle (not a skinny one) although I know a lot of people like to use the skinny ones for a delicate look.
I usd to enjoy going to the gym a lot. I really would like to go back.
I can understand what you wrote about flattie and not wanting to reveal too much re new years plans etc... i also like to deal with problem stuff alone. Keep it light etc with certain ppl. It's a balance of who to open up to, some people really get weird about trauma. Most, I'd say.
You don't sound vain at all don't worry - you work out and are healthy and look pretty. Sometimes people can get jealous about these things if they have self esteem issues, so harmful. Turns something good into something bad. Should be able to enjoy yourself and feel good about your appearance and have friends who want that for you. And family.

I hope you're okay over this time and that it goes well over the holidays. Totally understandable that it's upsetting and rough. Sorry you've gone through so much with ur family.

Haha how sweet EM.

Hello to all

Taylor Dane .. I remember her and that song. Thanks, Ems for being here for me bbg x

Sleepy, I know what you mean about the darkness. I felt the same way - thought it be too dark and depressing. It isn't. Just don't over do it and as long it's with white and other lighter colour. Had a quick look on Ebay and Georg Jensen candle holders are expensive. I've found a pair that is silver with square base with same clean lines as your clock (not Jensen). They're beautiful.

I got inspired by the colour scheme from my ex's mum (Spanish playboy). She's still a beautiful, sassy woman in her late 70's. My ex got his looks from her. And, she couldn't live without her eyelash extensions and nails also. We really got along. She gave me LOTs of advice about men, sex and marriage. She's VERY cheeky. She pushed hard for me to be her daughter-in-law. Too bad it didn't work out with her bad-tempered son. I still miss him at times - he was the hottest thing that came into my life (in every way damn mmmm) but that temper, omg. Anyway Sleepy, her and her husband bought a big, beautiful home in the mountains and it's to die for! Its just GORGEOUS! It a modern facade and inside .. wow. She went all modern in the colour scheme that is now inside my home. She has impeccable taste.

"I usd to enjoy going to the gym a lot. I really would like to go back" - You should go back, just do it!! I'll be here cheering you on for motivation saying things like "you can do it, give me another 2, push, push" lol.

Yeah, most people are weird about trauma. Most don't know how to deal or know what to say. Unless you've experienced a deep level of hurt and trauma, you wouldn't know what it feels like to be living with it, so I don't talk about it with anyone, not even psychologists, counsellors etc. And, I find a lot of ppl in life don't really care tbh, so why divulge? And as much as flattie and I get along, I'm still with this mindset, he's still a stranger, and we're from different worlds. I have zero expectations of ppl. Like you said keep it light with certain people - I do with most people.

Of course, I was worried about coming across as up myself because I'm not. Quite the opposite actually. I have really bad days where I think I'm just worthless. It's sad people get jealous to the point of destroying a person's life, it really is soo sad. I'm sorry I've gone through so much with my family too.

Hi MB20lover, how are you doing? I'm glad you've popped in and said hello.

 

 

 

Hi Bluberry and others. I'm ok, how are you?

- Tayla

Hey Blubs -

I'm sorry you had to be made to feel upset about something good. Taking care of your health is a positive thing. Good on u for taking care of urself... it's a great thing!!!

Wow amazing vibrant exs mother sounds so gorgeous. Her house sounds like heaven. Great inspo!! I can understand still missing him, I have a bit of that in waves at times... it's confusing especially when u know it wasn't right in some ways. It's nice that his mother was so caring towards you - I know that can be helpful. I have also been close to my exes parents previously. It's really helpful to have women around who are like good examples and caring when there isn't really much of that in the family.

I hope you're okay and having a good day... yay no face masks. I'd love to try a gym there are quite a few near me ... maybe my neighbour goes i'll ask her which one she goes to... My neighbours are organising street parties and bbqs coming up in the next few weeks. It's so funny lol. I've moved into this gossipy and in-your-face area while I'm recovering. I hated it at first but now I'm just going with it. Maybe I'll go to the next BBQ.

Those candlesticks sound gorgeous... clean lines are so beautiful. Do you do mostly home touches in silver, like candle sticks, clocks etc? I'm wandering to add some side tables and storage to my place and thinking to go silver or white. It's so fun the clean look - thank u for sparking my interest.

xx

Guest_1643
Blue Voices Member
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hey Tayla, how are you? Hope you had a good day

Am_strong
Community Member

Hi Everyone,

Am new to the forum. I was led to this forum in search of support and help. I was diagnosed of ptsd + severe depression due to incident that happened at work. I have struggled ever since, I am a medical doctor, researcher and currently doing my PhD but all of that I can’t do anymore, I know little about mental health probably because am of African decent. My psychiatrist recently told me I should have gotten better that even veterans he treated got better faster , I felt useless hearing say that and I contemplated some things I am ashamed to mention but am grateful for my wife. I feel like I have lost myself, am in my 30s and dealing these issues I can barely understand, have lost my sexual function because of all the drugs I am on. I now have hypertension as result of the constant anxiety, I lose my train of thought while talking, can’t concentrate or focus, all which frustrates me. Please can anyone who has been where I am advice me the way out of this? It feels like this isn’t my life anymore. Please help