Introduction - Hello Everyone

[Guest_498]

Hi all,

I'm new to this forum. I'd like to introduce myself. I'm 40 years of age, female. My interests include music (any genre), reading a great novel, watching comedy, Restuaranting, and learning new things. I suffer from depression and anxiety. Depression feels very lonely for me. I'd like to reach out for some support. Thank you.

[Guest_498]

Ems said "Blubes is leader of the BB Interior Design team lol!
She's given us all stacks of tips about colours of things in our homes...I told Yvette my plans and she LOVES those blues Blubes and Sleepy". - Thanks Ems, that's so sweet of you. Naww thanks. Glad Yvette loves the blues!! Let us know which colour is nicer. Can't wait to see which one you end up choosing. Exciting, exciting.

Yes, I'm loving getting out to the gym after being cooped up in da house for so long. It's great to speak with personal trainers again on health & techniques. Lol, one really pushed me today (trainers are not back training but allowed to give advice and still somewhat "push" you). I find them very useful for motivation and simply pushing you. Push, push. In only the last few days back at the gym, I can feel the difference between working out at home and using the machines - BIG difference. I feel good. Working to keep me fit and healthy whilst destressing mentally. It helps with mental health a little bit. Anything to distract, I suppose. I'm concentrating on me. Concentrating on getting my life, mind & health back. Anything else will be a bonus for me. I'm selfish atm and everything I do these days, ARE ALL FOR ME! I have no one telling what I can and can't do. Noone to judge me. Noone to answer to. It's all about me for a change.

Always, Blubes xx

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Ems said: "You total RATBAG" - Yeh, I am!! hehe. "Omg was he embarrassed"? - No, he wasn't, not in the slightest. Neither was I. It's natural. These things don't embarrass me. "I have a bright red face just reading that story lol"! -
Oh Ems, lol. Really? You went bright red? Maybe it's a generational thing? "Hope it was HIS couch! LOL" - Yes, it is. He purchased it from my previous flatmate. He bought his bed as well. Furniture was new, had it for only 3 weeks prior to moving out.

Blubes

[Guest_498]

Hey Sleepy,

I missed your thread re: mirrored furniture. Just read it now - I love mirrored furniture!! They're especially good for small spaces. A mirrored dresser is nice and elegant. Great thing about them is that they'll go with any coloured furniture, such as dark wood or white side tables. Great choice.

xx

[ecomama]

Hi Blubes!

Yes, it's a generational thing most likely BUT depending on the company, I'm fine.
Being raised by Missionary parents is most likely the pretty extreme modesty call tho lol.

Aha, the BLUES lol... when I get sample pots of each and paint them near-ish each other on a coupla places on the walls... then we can observe the bright Summer light on each at difft times of the day / night then decide.

I need to take data lol.... I'll draw up a spreadsheet bec I'll go with majority IF I can't make up my mind that is.
Otherwise I get to make the Exec decision bec I'm paying for it after all. Lol.

That'll be happening over the next month / 6 weeks bec I'd like ALL the family's input and they can have some "ownership" of the changes.

My poor poodle's ears need attending to by the Vet again ughhhhhhh. Poor baby. So sore.
Plus Uncle coming back.... drum roll... omg lol.

Yvette! She had her septum pierced.
She got ALL her hair cut off a few days ago.
She's prepping to "come out" I'm sure of it.

New GP ordered blood tests - Yvette's first ever.
Then wants to talk to the SA Psychologist who was so kind to us, but her books are full atm. I REALLY think SHE is the one who can help Y.
Then referral to a Psychiatrist too.
Meds are on the cards but Yvette feels she needs them so there's the rub.
Yvette feels she needs all this intervention.
I'm trusting her and the professionals over this.

Trusting is hard.
I'll never trust anyone 100% and that's my choice.

The helpline trauma psych said I'm at the edge of my capacity to help Y.
Then after reading our notes... she said it's really all too much for me.
Ofcourse it is!
She gave me some GREAT tips and biggest being radical self care lol!

I need to trust but not trust blindly.

Love EM

[Guest_4643]

Hii Bluberry (love the username and picture). Nice to meet you. How are you?

Hello to others here too

- Tayla

[ecomama]

Re: Special holidays

Dearest Blubes, hugest hugs.

I hear you.

I know how this feels.

It's more than heart-breaking, IMHO it's tragic.

Please open up and talk through ANYTHING that's on your mind.

I know I / we can't change things for you, but we love you and care about you so much.
Just know that we care and we hear you. Hugs!

There's a thread on coping with the Holidays coming up. Maybe you want to have a peek and see if something sparks some joy for you??

Have you spoken with flattie about his plans for Christmas / NYE?

I'm really glad you're enjoying the gym and I'm SO HAPPY for Victoria that things are looking better and better for you all. HUGS again.

Love you lots Blubes
EM

[Guest_1643]

hey blubs we're all here for you and wishing you to get through these holidays ! I know it can be very traumatic for sure. Glad you can come here and talk anytime. As virtual friends we've got ur back!!

Yay about the gyms and no masks... omigosh. huge news hey!!

That's cool that the trainers can still help without directly being too close. Trainers can be really encouraging and I always appreciated them cheering me on while i excercised. I used to be a reg gym user but not for fair few years.

Thanks for the encouragement - I need some storage and have been eying this mirrored furniture. I feel like it's classy! And you're so right about the colours how it just compliments in a slick way. Doesn't dominate or clash with anything that's already there.

i don't know how people cope with the struggles of the holidays when it brings up a lot. I used to run away at times like that - go on a holiday if I could afford it. i don't know if that helped, tbh. It's tired running from painful thoughts. I like how you can share about it and let it out here. I was in denial for ages and its counter-productive in my opinion. I'm sorry it's so hard bbg xx

[Guest_498]

I'm sorry to hear about your dog Ems. Poor darling. When things go wrong, it's worrying. The worst thing is, they can't communicate to tell us what's wrong.

Yvette sounds like she's slowly coming out, yes. She's steadily morphing into 'that' image (not to stereotype). On the trust issue, I'm the same. It's HARD to trust anyone fully.

Read your post on the Christmas/NY thing ... (Cry face). I love you HEAPS too. No, haven't spoken to him about it and I won't ask. I deal with things on my own and won't open up about it. It's not him, it's me. I've told him bits about my family when he asked, but haven't really opened up. I don't think I will entirely open up, either. I find usually with the holiday season, people spend them with family and I'm assuming he'll be busy with his family here - cousins, aunts, etc. This is soo painful Ems, I've lost all family members including my favourite cousins, nephew, niece whom I was very close to. I'm devasted and angry. Angry that my sister has done all this to me. Damaged my life and taken away everything that meant anything to me. Jealousy - that's it. Sad, isn't it? Effing so and so. BREATHE. I'm so angry. Sad at the same time. Jealous that I had it all - a loving man who showered me with expensive gifts, loving family, about to embark on a law degree, a beautiful home in a sort after location, nice body (I later found out from my ex - he told me that she was extremely jealous about this)(I'm not blowing my own trumpet here, so please don't think that, I'm not up myself, far from it. Apparently, I'm hot - whatevs, I can't see it) - so she set out to destroy my life. She did it. I was blind-sided, Ems. Then my mum .. omg, my mum!! She treated me poorly - I had no idea why. Well, I did, but not initially.

Sharing this with you guys and knowing that you care means a great deal. I got a bit teary... I'm such a sook sometimes.

xx

[Guest_498]

Hey, hey Sleeping Beauty & Tay Tay (Tayla),

Sleepy, I knew you'd like the colours. I do!! My home is in this colour scheme and I love it. Dark charcoal, black, white and silver - easy to work with (any splashes of colour will tie in), do not dominate, clean (no clutter), slick. I'm sooo pleased you LOVE the colour combo I suggested. Keep up with the interior designing bbg. Its nice to be proud of your home. Its your own space - where you live in & retire daily - It's YOUR home!! It feels nice coming home to a beautiful place that reflects you and your personality. I'm happy for you and for Ems too with all the planning, designing etc. Proud of you guys.

Have you thought about re-visiting a gym, even say once a week? or exercise at home on your own? Its important to keep up with health - vitally important. Cardio is best form of exercise imo. As you get back into the swing of it, I reckon you'll enjoy it! Its a matter of motivating yourself and loving yourself. I always say, if I don't love me, who will? I really want that for you - loving yourself enough to stay healthy. I want that for all of us, here. Denial is counter-productive, yes. Running away from your problems isn't imo. I ran away too. I avoided Christmas family gatherings etc. As virtual friends, I've got your backs, too. Thnx 🙂 Yeah, its pretty tough isn't it?

Nice to meet you too, Tayla. Tayla's a nice name. I always told myself that if I ever decided to have a child, and its a girl, I'll name her Tayla (spelt like this too). I'm ok. I've been triggered this weekend coz of the whole holiday thing but other than that, I'm ok. I hope you are doing alright too. 🙂

Please feel free to chat here anytime you want and about anything, too. I'd like you to keep reaching out and posting here any time you need to. I'm here for you.

Big Hugs to all!!!

Always, Blubes xx

[Guest_4643]

Hey again Bluberry and others.

That's a cute nickname you gave me, thank you. And that's sweet that you want to call your Daughter that too.

Thank you, I'm here for you all too.

Big hugs back.

- Tayla