Introduction - Hello Everyone

[Guest_498]

Hi all,

I'm new to this forum. I'd like to introduce myself. I'm 40 years of age, female. My interests include music (any genre), reading a great novel, watching comedy, Restuaranting, and learning new things. I suffer from depression and anxiety. Depression feels very lonely for me. I'd like to reach out for some support. Thank you.

[mocha delight]

Well I have had my 6th appointment with the psychologist yesterday and I see my gp on Tuesday plus got my next two appointments to see the psychologist again in January already. I could of gone on the waiting list to see her earlier but I should have more to talk about after the Christmas holidays/new year’s ect ect ect especially about Christmas as I’ve never had a Christmas without family drama. But until then I’ll have you all help keep me sane 🤪😂 but on the other hand I don’t see my psych again until about half way through January so feeling anxious about that. On a brighter not I got a jigsaw puzzle & jigsaw puzzle mat as well as a couple of new tops from a family member on my birthday. Plus I brought another two jigsaw puzzles after my appointment yesterday so I now got a total of 8 jigsaw puzzles now.

[mocha delight]

Just checking in to see how everyone is going as the forums have gone a bit quite lately

[Guest_498]

Halo All LOVELY PPLS,

I hope everyone is GOOOOOD!!! I'm doing ok. Thanks for checking in on me re: mum. No, I'm never ok with it. I'm pretty angry actually. Always angry when I think about my family (these ppl, they're not family). But I try to deal with it as best as poss. I hope you'll be enjoying your time off work - great to hear you have a months break, yay.

Hey Mocha, great to hear that you're keeping well and happy 🙂 xx

Blubes

[ecomama]

Hey Bluberry!

How you doing' bbg? lol (looks like bbq ugh)...

Oh I wanted to ask if you got to that dance class or such at the gym?
And if you liked it or not?

I also want to report that I am ROCKIN this self-care thang - said with karate chop hands, woosh woosh lol! Oh I can be silly sometimes.

I've been to the Health Food shop twice (YES TWICE omg) this week to get stuff for my healing... and it's so good but one lot of stuff helped the swelling in my face like half a cricket ball, reduce about 90%!

I also noticed just now when I saw you'd posted that you actually joined on my birthday... happy birthday to me lol!

Nice to see your post darling girl.

Family errrgggh I really don't know sometimes.
I guess one thing I DO know is that we can't expect them to change.

Love EM

[Guest_498]

I'm doing ok, darling. My circumstances have changed a bit, hence why I haven't been on forum for a lil' while. I've started work (trial, see how I go) .. Uber. It's been quiet but I'm putting in the hours. I have to otherwise I'll make no money, lol. Caught up with Court guy & gay politician-to-be again. I met one of his (politician) friends the other day and exchanged phone numbers. He's nice. I sent him a message re: something he got for me and he wanted to come 'round to my home that night. I was like, nooo I live with my flatmate!! Gosh, I hope I didn't give him any wrong impressions, as I'm not interested in that way. There was absolutely NO chemistry with Court guy. I told him I'll come by before xmas to see him - I'll get him a Christmas card. Politician invited me to his party on Sat. There'll be over 300 ppl. Awesome but a bit crowded.

I've decided to stick with the gym as dance classes atm will be too much of a commitment. I might take it up later down the track.

Is it your bday? Lol, I don't know when I joined. Covid fog, I think lol.

Yeh, damn family dynamics!

[ecomama]

OH MY GOSH a Party with 3 HUNDRED people lol!!! That's awesome Blubes.

Good on you for starting Ubering. Well done. Is it paying okay?

Nice to hear you've caught up with those people and those friendships are building.

Not sure what to say about the other guy possibly thinking you were in for more than you were... ummm? lol I'm too much of a straighty 180 to the point of "rudeness" Alexa used to say.... but she gets it now.
I'm straight up with Nope not interested.

I think it's terrific that you're getting along so well with Polly friend. I still reckon there's a job in there somewhere for you, just while you finish Uni etc. Who knows right?

Omg the mozzies are dreadful here!
Just lit a mozzie coil lol.

Gotta get more organised for tomorrow and find some cozzies that fit lol.

Now I know p.son and GF will be here all weekend, I need to buy groceries!
Early tomorrow prob. Those 2 eat us out of house and home lol... they're less "financial" than the others.
GF Loves bananas, avos and mushrooms.
Son loves bacon, bread and cheese of any type.

Need to do my self-care routine now Blubes lol... long bath and lots of oils and moisturisers.

So happy you're back. Missed you lots!

Love EM

[Guest_1643]

hi Blubs - nice to hear u've been finding some really cool contacts

i read Polly friend as Polly's friend... and I was like - who's Polly? who's this Polly who Blub's has been hanging out with, and who is Polly's friend.... lol Now I get it

I think u'll love the party

Yes family dramas suck.

I've got a really good support group I go to that has been helpful for me atm. I also called an org today called The Women's Trust. They do interesting work.

Keep well all xo

[Guest_1643]

hi EM i like what you said about not expecting family to change.
i had to train myself a little to expect nothing from my family. Unfortunately it didn't come naturally. Although it would be painfully obvious to anyone watching externally, when it's ur own family and they keep promising to change, sometimes you get caught up in it.
I don't expect anything now.
I expect them to say ignorant and offensive things and to threaten me. I also know I won't give them an inch of airtime to spread their hate. They'll have to get their kicks somewhere else.

[Guest_498]

Ems, keep up the self care thing, its good for you. I love baths with essential oils, candles etc. so relaxing! Yes, p.son & g/f would be eating you out of house and home lol. You have yummy cooked meals and plenty of delicious food! They're so lucky to have you. x Is uber paying ok? No, not really tbh - LONG hours with little gain atm. I'll persist and see how it goes.

Party of 300+ (300 was approx) only. I initially wasn't going to attend b'coz there are too many ppl!! But Politician wanted me there, so I said yes. "I still reckon there's a job in there somewhere for you, just while you finish Uni etc. Who knows right"? - We touched on that the other day. He didn't say no. I was happy to hear that :-). He's been really aggressive in getting himself known both online and off. I'm really proud of him.

I missed you too, Ems.

Sleepy & Ems, I'll second you on the family thing - don't expect ppl to change. They don't unless they want to. Sleepy, like you, I stopped hoping they'll change many years ago. You're right, don't expect anything from them. As a matter of fact, don't expect anything from anyone. It's my motto. They can most defs get their kicks elsewhere!! I tell myself the same thing. The group you're with sounds beneficial for you. Good to hear you're reaching out and making your own contacts as well. I googled the Vic Women's Trust group and yes, their work is interesting indeed. Very noble. I'm happy to hear that you're doing well, bbg. xx

"i read Polly friend as Polly's friend... and I was like - who's Polly? who's this Polly who Blub's has been hanging out with, and who is Polly's friend.... lol Now I get it" - Big LOL.

xx

[Guest_498]

Sleepy how are you sleeping lately?