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Introduction - Hello Everyone

Guest_498
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Hi all,

I'm new to this forum. I'd like to introduce myself. I'm 40 years of age, female. My interests include music (any genre), reading a great novel, watching comedy, Restuaranting, and learning new things. I suffer from depression and anxiety. Depression feels very lonely for me. I'd like to reach out for some support. Thank you.

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Sleepy,

Glad you are ok now. It was caring of beyond blue to give you a call back - nice to know that they care enough to do this. Was it related to your cptsd? THAT darn disorder is just terrible. Mine hasn't played up since my cute flattie moved in. And, I've been exercising A LOT which also helps. Sinking yourself into a really good book will help you distract your mind for sure!! Good girl.

That was a bit rich of her, isn't it? Asking for installation and never contributing - yeah, right. Some ppl have no shame!! Good riddance indeedy. Yes, he stole big & small plates, cutlery, meat, cheese that was almost empty, a glass shelf from the garage (been meaning to instal in my bathroom but never got 'round to it), and even tried to steal my sandwich maker but I retrieved it amongst his things to pack.

Decorating the house is FUN!! I love it!! The process of choosing colours, mixing and matching things and furniture, all gets the creative juice flowing...kicks in your creative side - a lot of fun. I'm happy to hear that youre getting so much joy from this.

Ems, Alexa's date is keeping me in suspense as well. I really hope she has fun with him. He sounds lovely. Sounds like he's really into her!

"Thanks for keeping us all sane and being so sweet...and optimistic for melbournians". - Ditto. You've (and everyone else here) have done the same for me. During the LONG lockdown with nothing to do, bored out of my wits and utterly lonely, my BB family was here by my side to keep my sane. Love you all - highly appreciated.

Funnily enough, the shops are not overly hectic. I go during the weekday, not weekend. It's not as hectic as when we were in the first stage lockdown tbh. I remember the line at Bunnings and Ikea were chockas. Not now.

My flatmate told me last night he's taking me out for dinner sometime this week. He asked me to pick a day & restaurant. He told me that he'll take me out if Trump loses election. I was sure Trump was going to lose whilst he believes Biden simply could not win it. I'm thinking Friday evening and Thai restaurant. There a Thai restaurant that I haven't been to in a LONG time - it's fusion Thai cuisine (not traditional). I love, love, love fusion food. Its the best when its done right. This place does it right. Fusion food is trending right now has been for several years.

Blubes xx

hey blubs

yay bb family

keeping sane and safe 🙂

My ptsd manifests as anxiety or just feeling low like it ebbs and flows... and then i get traumatised and scared of certain situations and ahve triggers. It's bad and tday it's been a bit flat 😞

Thanks for ur decorating tips sweet mama

The look I wanted for the mantle was very very elegant, clean, modern - the wall is a kind of weird off white/cream - the tele is black just has one line of grey underneath - ur idea is beautiful and classy - i'll give it a try with maybe white vases and the grey clock?

Yeah melania will do nothing I hope she disappears. I prefer Jill Biden as she is educated and shares the stage rather than being passive and just smiling and nodding in cute outfits.

I'm so glad uve seen developments since ur flattie moved in. You're killing it 🙂 Replacing bad memories with good memories is very helpful with ptsd... and uve done it x

ecomama
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Hi Blubes!

I simply CAN'T resist saying this LOL.....

SO if the girlfriend he's dating is not a gf but a friend who's a girl?

THEN I guess the date to the Thai Restaurant is NOT a date but I suppose we could call is a 1:1 flattie meeting??

😂🤣😂🤣

What the heck I call ducks, DUCKS!

This is a date Blubes.
No point in denying it.
Mr Denial has enough denial for the whole of BB lol.

He's Italian so he'll play semantics but we are NOT so I'm not gonna do that lol!

OMG YOU'RE GOING ON A DATE WITH FLATTIE!

I'm glad you don't get attached to men you date.
I just hope his gf who's not a gf is okay with his actions with OW.

Whatevs, enjoy yourself luvvie.

Alexa - well I say she MUST be very busy talking to him A LOT because she normally answers my texts within a few hrs at the latest but no response for ...... over 24 hours.
Hmmm. Lol.

They're supposed to be going on the beach picnic tonight.
IF she hasn't chickened out, which is highly probable.

It's ALL OKAY lol.

The extent of MY interior decorating atm is sorting the Return and Earn bottles, cans etc LOL!
HUGE job here.
Hopefully I can go on my days off because they CLOSED our one!! omg no wonder I felt depressed there for a while lol.
Long trip to another one, but there's one near Alexa's so I'll go see her at the same time.

I have a DATE too!
LOLOL with my poodle AND those 2 older ladies with THEIR dogs at the coffee shop nearby this Thursday.
I have Counselling in the morning so I hope they wait for me lol!
Yah, It's fanceeee. (As I flick my hair lol).

EMxxxx

LOL Ems, just read briefly what you wrote!! Ill have another read and I'll answer when I get back from the shop's!!

Guest_1643
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dates all round lol. I've been in situations like that before and EM you have my mind whirring that perhaps they were trial dates. Could this be true?
Enjoy urself blubs.

I'm going to the store now for more home stuff - BB lady suggested that I treat myself today with all the roaring emotions. So it'll be a cushion. That's on the self-care today.

Em are these the old ladies you met about a week ago? veyr heart warming if so.

ecomama
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Hi Blubes and Sleepy lol, watch out I think Blubes wants to slap me! LOL!

But you know I'm right, so whatevs lol.

SURE SLEEPY they were probably dates lol!
Omg it only took me several DECADES to work things out for myself, couldn't see the forest for the trees before then.

Omg I didn't even KNOW when someone was making a direct come on to me unless they literally said it!

One person asked me what I was doing for breakfast and I told him probably waking up and having weet bix, maybe toast.
Why?
What do you eat for breakfast? (like is this a trick question?).

When his friend told me EXACTLY what he meant, I ran away lol.

Have FUN shopping my bbgs lol.

My purse it shut TIGHT, ever so tight but I don't like shopping anyway tbh.

My sons who live downstairs (including heartbroken son who's getting hit on left right and centre atm! but he said it's not respectful to meet anyone else so soon, it'd be "undignified" LOL! he's such a perfect bf really)

anyway they all had their friends over last night - I was thinking like what's going ON down there... then I saw it this afternoon, they've completely MOVED furniture and cleaned the whole gym area out and even swept and dusted!
Hmmm they're thinking of entertaining ppl who they usually don't entertain.

I need to show them the paint I bought for that area while they're on a whirl! lol.

Ok I'm busting to know what you guys bought today!

EMxxxx

Hi Blubes & all,

Bad flatties r everywhere. So many ppl don't know boundaries I've discovered.
Good riddance to bad flatties of the past.
Which is why I won't live in these ppls studio if offered. I'm totally listening to my instincts on this one.
I'm in no major rush so I will take my time.

Yes, Sleepy ,Malania made me laugh lol. She was a decoration lol.

Talking of dates I've just booked myself 2 nights at a motel with a huge pool by the beach. The room has a spa oooh la la. I will be adding to that self care thread Ems.

So, you're worried your kids won't have a house? R U going to be in financial trouble? I feel like you can make things work out for sure. I'm very confident in your ability Em.

Well done for reducing your PTSD symptoms and exercising Bluberry...you are doing exceptionally well these days. Sometimes being alone is the worst for ppl.

And on you Sleepy for the self care and decorating.

Sleepy, so that is what ptsd is? Im haven't been diagnosed but I believe mine manifests itself in anxiety with the ebbs and flows of depression as well. However, I haven't had a trigger for a lil' while. Something will trigger it, im sure. Always does.
Thats a really nice look youre after! I like it. But I meant a modern silver clock with clean lines, not grey.
I hope you got what you were looking for, cushion-wise.

Ems, Ems, Ems .. Darling, ever-so-sweet Ems. This isn't a DATE. It's just dinner with my flatmate. It came about in the first week he was here whereby we were watching the news and a convo about the U.S election took place. We discussed the two candidates and he knew how much I hated Trump but he couldn't see Biden winning. I disagreed. So he said that if Trump loses, he'll take me out to dinner. Lol. Thats it, missy. You're reading too much into it. Flatmates do go out & hang together if they get along, you know. Shock horror, Ems ppl do that.
As for his friend whos a girl, I don't ask questions and he doesn't talk about her. Its their business. Not my business. Last time I said something, he was dismissive so Ive never brought it back up.
Yes, hes cute. Yes we get along. Yes, we have chemistry. And yes, Id like to do .. to him but, yeh, we're just good flatmates. End of story.

Yes monkey!

LOTS of self-care going on here! That's terrific peeps.

I was just worried that if these lumps turn out to be sinister... about working and about the kids ofcourse. That's all lol.

I have mammograms in 2 weeks time then Drs a week after that.
PRAYERS ARE WELCOME!!

Omg my gf from yonks ago just called me from Qld and we talked for 2 hours lol.
She has so much family drama but I said I don't know ANYONE who has had any family dramas!
LOLOLOL.

Family drama is our middle names gals.
She knows I get it.

Anyway she's hoping to come stay in March next year!!!
SO I BETTER get my finger out and get this house into gear lol.
I met her when Alexa was 1 month old!
She moved to Qld about 20y ago.
She's ALWAYS been awesome but omg same but different family dramas there.

She wants to ask BF all about why he voted for Trump LOL!!
She's so funny.

Anyway that was "fun" catching up with her lol.

Better get in and cook FOOD, look at the time. Cheeses.

Love EM